Confession & Style Help — Relationship and Goth Tips
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This discussion thread from the Femboy Order・Femboys・Furries・LGBTQ・Roblox ・Tomboys ・Gay・Femboy Tag・Gay Tag・Twink Tag・Minecraft community centers on a user seeking advice regarding a crush on a straight guy while navigating their own identity journey toward HRT, and simultaneously struggling with starting a goth/alt style due to lack of resources and knowledge. Other community members offered support, advising the original poster not to overthink the crush, suggesting a slow, gradual approach to ...
So, I like a guy, I'm a girl but I don't look like a girl, he is straight and idk if that is good or bad for me if you see it in a short term would have been better for me he to be gay but in a long term when I will start HRT it would be bad, the perfect thing is him being bi but I really doubt he is, so it's useless building strategy on a thing that's very unlikely (yet plausible, I found him on 2 femboy servers) I want to be goth/alt but I don't really have the money, time and the knowledge (I don't know shit about styles in general, like yea i can distinct them but idk what clothes should i buy, how do i put them on to look nice and not like a dumbass). This is all thxxx (≧ω≦)
is this guy online or irl
Hey… I get what you’re saying, and honestly it sounds really confusing to deal with both feelings and identity stuff at the same time.
About the guy… try not to build everything around “what if”. If he’s straight, that’s just something you can’t control, and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Sometimes feelings just don’t line up, and that’s okay, even if it sucks.
And about your style… you don’t need money or to know everything to start. You can go step by step, try simple pieces, see what feels like you. Nobody starts knowing how to dress perfectly, we all figure it out over time.
Just don’t be too hard on yourself… you’re already trying to understand yourself and that’s actually a big deal. Take it slow, you don’t have to solve everything at once 🤍
dang
I should be softer with my advice like mahpop
you're overthinking it
just tell him
look at yourself and ask yourself if you'd date you
style is just something you'd figure out along the way
do we think I'm a good advice giver
I get what you meant, but it’s not that simple. People often see themselves differently than they really are — someone can be amazing and still feel not enough, or the opposite. Even if she were the “perfect” person by every standard, it doesn’t mean the guy she likes would feel the same. Attraction isn’t a formula, it depends on personal taste, timing, and things you can’t control.
true
I mean
even if he did like transs or men or women
by the average standard
is she attractive enough
to think that she looks pleasing to herself
For now just be close to him joke to him about femboy and other stuff I'm just see his reaction and day by day come closer to him your joke become bolder and bolder reveal himself when he feel ready
makes sense
