Feminine Male Struggles and Seeking Support
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In Adultcord 🧿 a member vents about being an alt femme with no relatable feminine male friends, feeling valued only when sexualized or presented as pretty, and experiencing dating bias and attention differences when swapping genders. The post also covers being ghosted by gaming friends and seeks empathy and community support while avoiding pity.
I have no feminine male friends that I can relate to, especially those that are alt femmes. I feel unvalued unless I look super cute or pretty to look at and constantly feel like sexualizing myself gets me the most attention. Many social media posts I see about femboys are sexual, unserious, and just bait for attention because they target our fragile egos, knowing most of them don't take us seriously as people. Dating as a femboy is feels like being the second option to women for desperate straight guys since a lot of gay men don't have a preference for femininity. I get 20x more likes on dating profiles when I swap genders to women and it hurts to see this change in attention. Non-relevant addition but I've felt like a loser lately and struggled to make any gaming friends. Recently, I made friends on Overwatch on 4 different occasions and they've all dropped me and their friend groups seem unwelcoming. Looking to mostly vent and not be taken that seriously; I don't accept pity that well.
