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I’m never really active on discord but I would like to seek some wisdom and possibly some advice.
For a long time (for months) me and this girl I’ve met have been hitting it on for a while. Me and her would go on call frequently, and I even spent $80 dollars or more on this one date we went on. Besides the fact, she was a really nice woman who’ve lacked most of the not so great things about myself.
For a while, we’ve seem to stick it out, realistically I was possibly the only one thinking that. As of today we’ve broke up, it was pretty difficult for me to say the least, but I had zero idea on how she thought because it seemed like she just dropped me with zero emotion whatsoever. Which as startled me because she has showed so much gratitude and understanding towards me. I was thinking I was about to get at least an I’m sorry but that wasn’t the case. It really hurt me when she told me “there wasn’t a spark”
Now with zero plans for the summer (besides my job) I don’t really have any plans anymore because everything we’ve had was just thrown out the window. A little side note is, yes she was getting dry but she was busy with her job and gym workouts etc. I never thought too much of it, and the night before she was apologizing about her busy schedule and that she would share her calendar. Again it’s really crazy to think the next day, out of nowhere, I was just dropped. Any advice? Experience? Questions? I’ll be here all night if I have to.
Does matter the advice anyone would give you. It's still gonna hurt, for a while. Might change you a bit maybe or maybe. Still just an episode of your life. It mustn't necessary teach a lesson though. Just live on with life. All that happened was real Nd you would be fine someday.
Tough man!! Be strong...
I understand to want so.eone to listen you you most right now...
I'd want you to read all the messages without being emotional and just logically, okay??
Both of you were dating for a while so it wast that she faked it- there was something!!
You fealty everything was great because you thought you were doing your best....
Now you have broken up, could be you did something, could be she wanted something....
We are strangers, I don't know you and nor the woman!! So are all of the people on discord- no one knows who you guys are...
We can never judge and play faults on sides here!!
So don't take advice about your personal life and relationships from a bunch of strangers..... try to think for yourself through it and don't become too emotional(could not be your fault- you mentioned she had a busy schedule and all...)
What I will say is there are somethings you can do now-
- you invested a lot of time with her, so now that she left you feel you don't have anything to do!!(you can always find something to do)
- Now you constantly are thinking maybe you did something wrong- this may not be true(the woman coul have other reasons)
- Try to act normal because it is a normal event- don't let it weigh on you in your workplace and everywhere..( if you work on the same workplace- it will be awkward but don't let her think that you still are hang up on it.
- Don't blame anyone for this...
Somethings just fall apart without anyone's faults- humans are complex..
- don't keep thinking about it and ruin the precious time you have got for yourself again.. invest in yourself for a while.
If you want to still think on it- remember the woman did something and only she can explain- also understand women rarely speak what is on their heart(they speak with a filter).
Hard for me to say
Don't let everything bother you... you have got this my man!!
I appreciate the detailed explanation and advice, you are completely and totally correct about this. Man, you are very very wise and smart, I have so admiration for that. I’ve always taken these falls and fails whether it would be relationships or not, and whenever I do I never have those airbags or whatever to keep me from hitting the ground hard. You feel me? I crash, I wreck, and most importantly I’m always harsh on myself. I’m too critical towards my own mistakes, and never so easy, and calm.
You’re also right on the point about that. I appreciate it, I’ll try to start picking myself up, and start trying to find ways I can only find for myself. Realistically we’re all the same animal but never the same soul. Again I appreciate it.
yah welcome
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Damn man!!
You are really a tough guy!!
Can't imagine how many times you must've hit the ground without the airbag... how many times you have been hard on yourself!! Few are this stong bro- people simply blame others....
Haha here I worried for nothing... you can pick yourself up without anyone's help!! That is what you have learned...over your course of life
Haha go and enjoy yourself and life my man!!
Thank you Zariel ❤️
Be yourself! Sometimes it isn't meant to be. That doesn't mean stop looking. For all you know 5 years from now you could be somewhere amazing in your life! I believe in you! If you want to talk more feel free to DM and I'll offer what ever advice I can
Stay true to yourself 🥰
It can be hard, but in the end those that stick with you can become even closer
