Finding Support Through Grief: Community Advice & Healing
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In the FriendZone | Make Friends & Chat ⋅ Active Social Fun ⋅ Chill ⋅ VC server, members share vulnerable experiences regarding grief and emotional burnout. This announcement highlights a community discussion on coping with the loss of a parent and the feeling of detachment from daily life. It serves as a reminder that our server provides a safe space for members to seek advice, offer empathy, and support one another through difficult life transitions.
Hello, I don't know.. but I think I need advice?? or a different kind of perspective. So, my dilemma started a year ago. When my father got sick. He passed away this January. To be honest what happened at that time didn't rattled me a lot, but it was kind of sad.. seeing your parent deteriorate and pass away. I don't know if that is the only sole reason but I think it triggered something in me. I desolate a lot. To be honest I don't have many friends, but I am not a shy person. I have my own thing. I was fine..until I am not anymore. I feel disconnected from reality for the passing months. I bed rot a lot. I keep crying. I keep asking questions..and the worst thing is I don't feel scared or the enthusiasm to my responsibilities in school and life. Like.. the whole thing collapsed and I'm staring at it now in my feet, but I feel calm.. that's what scares me the most. That I am okay with everything falling down.
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I did my best to regulate my habits again. Exercise and meditate and stuff... This had been going on for too long.. 🥹
First of all, Rest in pease to your dad.
Secondly, You're doing great Mary. Your mind and brain is just trying to regulate the heavy emotion, even if u don't feel it as much. Some ppl feel nothing at all anymore and some ppl feel unbearable pain. Both are very underable and okay. Give yourself your time. Even if it feels like that everything is falling down, it isn't really. And your brain is alr so busy w the loss of your dad, that it doesn't have any spare time to handle the feeling of everything falling down too, so that could be the calmness that you feel.
I'm not really a therapist, so if it feels like too much to handle then you could seek for professional help too
Well maybe it's not that you don't feel anything but your minds reaction to stress is to shut down, that's also a symptom of depression. Not wanting to do anything or feel anything.
It's possible that it had a much greater effect on you than you realize
I haven't lost any close relatives yet but from what I've heard it never fully heals, but it gets easier to deal with over time
Thank you. This has been going on for months.. I'm not punishing myself anymore for being dysfunctional.. buy I really do hope I get my bearings again
Yeah that's what I read too.. maybe this is just a part of growing up.. but this is harder than I thought, not being in control of my own self anymore.. atleast at this moment
Im so sorry about ur father and this happens to a lot of people after big losses or life changes just take baby steps i know everyone says it but ive been there before but it was less severe since mine was due to a long term breakup just small steps like waking up an hour early and thats it or texting a friend or studying one section of ur task and thats it. until u build up its hard but with time those small steps turn into getting ur life back again
setting timers for tasks helped me
like 15mins for a task then an 5min break
that way u dont drag tasks out when motivation is low
Yeah maybe I should doing baby steps instead of thinking and finding new meaning totally that drag me into spiral instead. I'll this method.. thank you..
