Homeschooling vs. Public School: The Great Debate
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The FriendZone | Make Friends ⋅ Fun Chill Active Chat ⋅ VC Social Gaming ⋅ Nitro Emojis ⋅ Anime community is currently engaged in a lively debate regarding the social impacts of homeschooling versus traditional schooling. Members are discussing whether school is essential for developing social skills or if it creates unnecessary societal pressures. This thread highlights the diverse perspectives within our server, ranging from the importance of early social development to the desire for personal...
Anyone I’ve known that was homeschooled is either socially inept, weird asf, an unproductive member of society, etc.
School is literally essential to build social skills.
yeah they're kinda bad cz the lack of communication w the real ppl but guess most of em r forced by their parents at least in my environment.. maybe they don't know how to do it for a long time n the society expects em to be normal when they don't know what the meaning of being normal in the first place
I do not need society btw
u need it someday just guessing
I may, but I like living alone
Then don’t leech off tax dollars go live in a forest
If you’re not gonna work
It is better than being dependent on society
Lol. I am born here, so I live here, no need to move to the forest randomly
It is my independence to live here
it's okay if u don't wanna be dependent on it as long as the water is calm
I just dont like democracy btw
That is why
AALeech
I mean stereotype
Hating democracy and society I just know you’re fun at parties
I'd have rather done that at the start then gone to a normal college, to work on social skills
U mean like homeschool first and then college?
Yeah
I just hate the injustice btw, that is it. It does not mean I fully hate society btw
I mean social development is MOST important during early developmental years
Kids don’t go to college and then walk out Rico Suave
I’ve met those weird ass homeschool kids in college they were weird
True but that wouldn't mean being cut off from the world during homeschooling, besides school and interacting with other kids wasn't great
But no doing homeschool would kill the student's own intentions, is it fine?
Caused more issues then benefits imo
Idk name a better place to interact with SEVERAL kids their own age than school
School offers so many benefits besides “learning”
Is it all roses and tulips no but that’s literally the point. You learn life
Well for me it would've worked with relatives, neighbours, family friends and any in clubs etc
Im confused. they’re kids. They’re not supposed to be independent they’re not adults lmfao
That’s just not enough. School offers an even playing field, all day. Not in short little bursts and facilitated interactions with others.
School is a tool
So do you mean that kids are born to serve the society?
There's no point in social development if it just causes kids to gain severe issues with self-esteem and even trying to speak to others their age, they can even feel isolated in social settings (not saying I was or wasn't but I've seen enough to believe it)
Tbh I don't think it's even, wdym by that tho
Also the problem is that some kids are bullied in the not-homeschooling school, so it can be bad to put them in the school
You’re smoking crack. I’m saying that they don’t GROW UP to be productive members of society
Keyword in my original statement “WAS homeschooled”
If society is injustice, why do they need to stay in society?
Cant they just leave society?
Bullying isn’t ok and is not the purpose of school but it does happen and causes growth for both parties if they learn from it
If they did that then I wouldn’t have a problem but they end up being tax dollar leeches and don’t work. What dy think being a productive member of society means ?
It is like murdering a person and telling that that murdered person & that murderer learned a lesson after it
School brings on competitiveness in students to always try and one up eachother, and some of them can't handle that so may fall behind
Homeschooling removes that to help them focus more on themselves and their own learning without being pitched against others
Yea
Or more like hurting a person and both 'learnt' from it
More like killing a person and both have learnt from it
A bit extreme but I get the point, it does cause a lot of damage on the one who got buklied
Why do you need productive people for society? Cant they just enjoy their lives without society?
Bro idk how many times I have to repeat myself
Yea bullying isn’t ok but the benefits of school outweigh the negatives
Lemme explain. If a bully bullies a person, that person will waste their time to deal with the bullies, so that person does not have time to spend their time independently or peacefully.
Ah ok, yh I agree with that
Just to work like robot & only study what the school teaches, and get a job, work for 10 to 12 hours, then die
It means serving the society, not enjoying life peacefully
Yea homeschooling sucks
Id love to hear what you’re doing with ur life rn
Living in mom and dads basement isn’t fulfilling stop demonizing a job and work schedule lmfao
I am just having a peaceful time with my life, ig
oh man i feel this a hit towards D4VD but HES A BAD BAD PERSON so yeahhh
I can do a business, lol.
Well, business may need social skills but not much as job
Bro what u on? Going to school has no correlation with any of that? What your career choice is solely depends on the path you choose for ur own self. School is more of a place for holistic development. The social life is more important
how old are you
I am still studying
Your take makes sense now lmfao
bruh i asked your age
Enjoy school it’s literally a small portion of your life
fr
If you hate school it means u got no homies to get u through it
real shit
If working for society is my career, then yes, school is better
Worst part of school is the waking up at 6 am part lowk I think school should start at 10 am
But other than that
Bro doesn’t know what a career is
Can be
bro ur one of those instagram reels kids whos jst been brainwashed by those dopamine algorithms 😭 tell me one business idea youve actually thought of and how you’re gonna make it work?
Explain me what
There’s a saying I forget the actual quote but the fun of life is figuring out how find the crossover between what makes you money, what you’re passionate about, and what your purpose is
Bro, I am not that reel thing, my family is doing a proper business, not just a cheap ahh business
No wonder you don’t wanna work bro wants to live that trust fund leech life
So you’re off on your family business no? What about someone who doesnt have that privilage
Hmm, then that someone should go to school, and accept bullies btw
Bruh thats stereotypical af, “bullying” is not the entire concept that school life revolves around
Bullying isn’t an everywhere to everyone thing idk what bully academies you’re speaking of
I was never bullied growing up
And I know many ppl that had the same
That’s not a “omg ur so lucky” thing
And getting bullied is not really having any correlation with school, because thats just life. You dont chose who gets to be around you in life. You’re gonna find such kind of people everywhere not just school. You just need to learn how to deal with it
I did not say that school is wrong, the school can be better if you have good friends & good teachers & good environment & good people & good subjects btw
Fr at one point you’re gonna learn the harsh realities of life it’s inevitable
Ok then why are u here disagreeing with me lmao
I dont know also 💔
School ain’t perfect but it’s better than homeschooling
That’s my hot take
“Homeschooling is bad”
Lmfao
not everything will be spoonfed to u unfortunately… u need to build that sort of environment for urself.
Can be better if you have a good social skills to stay with strangers
Tbh homeschooling sounds kinda nice in theory
Idk about yall but I wasn’t born with good social skills. People skills are very much a learned skill
y?
Better for those who like being alone
Being alone is nice SOMETIMES but not the majority of time
Loneliness is a real sickness
Some ppl would rather be alone most of the time
To learn it from the school, you should need an interest to stay socially, you cant just automatically bond with society without an interest
You need social skills for accessing everything in life atp.. school is a place for growth, youre learning there so its okay to be antisocial and awkward. If ur gonna keep on running from it, then sooner or later youd have to face the consequences. Better do it early
But you figure that out later in life when you learn who you are. Don’t force that shit on innocent kids
Kids NEED people interactions for their literal development
Some people can not have social skills such as for an introvert
Introverts need social skills btw. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re a social loser it means you recharge your energy being alone and being around ppl drains it
Being lonely is diff from being alone
Exactly
I'm only talking abt certain ppl, even myself not everyone
Introvert could live alone in a forest ({with having his best friend if he feels lonely}). If he wants to live in society, then he should have social skills btw
Homeschooling doesn't just stop that all from happening
I personally would not put my kid into homeschooling.
Most of the kids saying “i like being alone” are just coping because their socialising skills suck. As a kid u would go through puberty so its normal to have awkwardness and some people prefer to stay in, but getting out of ur comfort zone is imp af at that age.
Im not saying people dont like to be alone, but in life things wont go the way u want them to be so as a parent i wouldnt put my child in a homeschool
If you let kids lead their lives purely based on what interested them we’d have even bigger losers in this world today. Kids HAVE to do shit they don’t want because it’s what’s best for them.
Feeling lonely hurts the most
They can, if they just socialise more. I used to be an introvert myself, and even now im kind of an ambivert so i do understand that angle of urs but for me it worked out in my best favour to get out of my comfort zone
What is the problem if society has losers? The losers are living their life peacefully, then what is the problem?
Depends on teacher
They’re not because losers leech off of tax dollars AKA OFF OF PRODUCTIVE OPL
how old r u
That does make sense, tho yh I would agree it's good to make them go to school at a young age but also trying to understand if it does benefit them or is causing them issues (for example if they struggle interacting with others and don't seem happy)
Losers arent losering in a vacuum they always involve others in their bullshit to sustain their bullshit
17 approximately, wbu?
Ig it does sometimes
Oh brother. Talk to me when you’ve graduated college
Lol. Being older does not make you mature btw
Struggling to interact with others is not a bad thing. Bullying is. Ik my kids would never face bullying because more or less everything can be fixed with good parenting. But yeah even if lets say they do, then honestly its very contextual what you would do in that situation, depending on how extreme it is, worst case scenario i would switch schools perhaps but thats in a very rare case. Mostly they should learn how to handle it
Talk to me when your frontal cortex develops
Yep I meant that and what could be considered bullying, also constantly switching schools can also cause issues (not saying it happens with everyone but it's more on certain cases I mean)
Also it heavily depends on the parents role, if they acc try and do smth if issues arise or not
Like honestly what even causes bullying? Most of the times its when the kid is too recessive or a “loser”. Mostly thats a parenting issue. I know how i would personally raise my kids so i highly doubt they would be going anywhere in that direction
Idk if that is the reason why I am talking like this, however, I just said what I felt right in this Hot Take reasonably & not through "ad hominem"
How old are you, bro?
Turning 17 this yr
Just stop making them leech, it is ur problem btw
Bro doesn’t know how the tax system works
Just dont let them do smt with tax dollar
Just kick them out of society or where tax dollar is interacted
Problem solved
Lol
I’m too grown to engage with you on this subject further fr
Probs things like physical traits, being new so trying to get used to a new environment, struggling with socialising in a place where ppl have already made friends, even shyness and other stuff
Using "Ad Hominem" without naswering my quesiton is crazy
Excuse me I never used that word
I’m in law school btw don’t start with me on an ad hominem
Idk if it is "Ad Hominem", but I do not know others word to describe that technique you used to stop answering me so that is why I used this.
Well, I wanna study about laws too...
Period you should it’s great. School and careers for the win
Yea, that is what I am saying
I’m just tired lmfao. I want to engage in a discussion without teaching basic principles about how taxes work and shit
A person who loves society much and thinking that society is fair talking to me is crazy 💔
Yh so it's not point in focusing on 'social development' if they can't focus on learning what school is supposed to teach them
Ikr
I don’t understand this sentence you just said
Idk my brain
Leave it
Sigh ok lmfao
Society isn't fair at all
Never said society was fair btw they’re just talking to talk
Yh just made that point
Mhm, physical traits which are genetical cant really be helped with so yeah, thats something which you cant really change. But thats just how the entire society would treat u, not just school so yea, its not really limited to school.
If u can change something abt it , for example if ur fat, then thats a great lesson for my kids to know how society treats people, so its just their own problem nd they need to get over it themselves.
Struggling to make friends could be a reason but thats more importantly a growth phase. Nothing wrong comes out of it honestly. Youre either staying at where u were before, or u get more friends.
Maybe I have low social skills, so I could not understand what you are saying, so if I live in a forest sufficiently & independently, is it a problem? It is not fault if it cause Tax Dollar or smt cuz it is my right to live alone in a free area?
Physical traits is one point and it isn't always an issue, for example I was thriving on socialising and making friends till being made to move to a school where I realised I wouldn't work well in, tho yh school would've been fine if those issues didn't arise since I did enjoy it at like 5 yrs old before moving
U living there is ur own choice u make after you’ve matured. But pushing that lifestyle on ur kids which they didnt choose is not the way bro
What if I did not push?
Kids can't control their circumstances all the time so pushing such things like they have to 'get over it' might just cause more long term issues since they don't understand it
bro tf u on? theyre minors so clearly they dont know whats best for them
so what you do is you send them to a place where they develop holistically
And then once theyre old enough they make their own choice wheather or not they wanna live that lifestyle
Mhm, yeah. Honestly its probably not a fun experience for everyone so i do get you.. but it is definitely important for a kid’s growth for sure
But I also cant force them to stay in society, I can give them free choices to choose society or not society in this case
Bro r u slow or what
Either that or it's become clear that the environment isn't working for them even if any problems have tried to get resolved by the parents (that's if they aren't lazy abt it)
Yh I agree it's good for growth but it should be more positive for them, rather than creating issues which could arise to affect them when they get older
Lol honestly most of the problems are solvable in my opinion. But yea what yall r talking abt are the rarest of the cases where yeah, circumstances might arise. It honestly depends on the context
But generally id prefer to put my kids in school regardless
So do you want me to force them to a place where the develop holistically?
- its like a small version of how life is in the outside world, weather u like it or not
True, and yh my points are more of in certain contexts so it wouldn't be smth the large majority should rly do
Valid
It might be better to let them try it at first and try and help them where they can, and if it's not helping at all then maybe change it up
If they are crying that they cant survive there, I am out, in this case
Yea. You ur supposed to be their parent. Its not like ur sending them to prison. Ive honestly never seen a scenario where i would actually go thru the extremes of putting my kids out of school. Idk what kind of anime worlds yall be living in lmao.
Also its not always gonna be their own choice. They need to learn to be disciplined nd survive in the real world. Ur jst raising pssies who run from every little minor discomfort they face
Yh that's valid, but trying to solve it first might be a good idea and if it still doesn't work then yh
Hmm
What kind of schools yall be going to bro 😭 😭 😭 genuinely
Not 'anime' fictional worlds, but irl
They have to learn how to survive, but not through forcing them.
💀
Yh exactly
????
Not every school are the same btw. Some are stupid
Bro yall never actually faced things in life
Yess
In the real world no ones going to save you, you need to teach your kids how to deal with their own problems
Be a little strict if you need to, discipline is important.
Bro thats like rarest of the rarest cases
Everyone faces diff things, smth I experienced may have not happened to u and vice versa tho it's not always gonna be the same
i genuinely have never seen a case where i would actually put my kids out of school
yeah indeed
If I force them to teach how to survive, it means that I am forcing them not to survive (independtly)
But most of the time its like
???????
Bro u make no sense
If it's been a while and they still can't seem to deal with what's going on then there's a serious issue to be addressed imo
fr, like bruh what r the teachers doing?
I don't rly get it
If I force them to study, it means that I am the monster for them and they should survive from me first
ur a parent if someone’s like messing with my kid
I would go nd interfere myself
if its that extreme
Some teachers r rly just shit tbh, and I can't even say it's just coincidentally getting 'bad' teachers for some ppl
Idk how to explain, I tried to explain briefly, cuz it is a deep philosophical term btw.
I’d say I’ve done fine tbh
Alr that's fine
bruh first of all it depends on what they want to do in life. If their career path is thru studying lets say, then forcing them to study is not a wrong thing to do. Thats jst fragile af
They are idiots, they won't even teach students who want to be teached
Not always but yh some can't teach properly lol
Agreed. Most of them dont even wanna be here in my school lol, theyre jst here to fill their pockets n leave
Depends on their career, but I should care about their mental health
but its not like they have a choice
Theyre obliged to step in
If they dont then its gonna be a problem for their own job
taking care of mental health and keeping them disciplined is very different
Doesn't mean they'll do it, sometimes they're also the issue
Keep them disciplined can cause them a mental problem
broooo
😭 😭 😭 😭
Lmao
💔
yall needa get off discord
UNO REVERSE
Either way im out
It doesn't exactly work like that, there's more to it than that
I am done 😭 ✌️
Disc is fun to debate tho
It is kinda an understanding problem.
True ig
Lol. Now I feel the fun
Yeah but if they dont then im gonna go to the principal or wtvr. Theyre obligated to make sure that my kid has a comfortable environment
Hahaha nicee
Mhm
Thats why i came here lol
Yep that's deffo the right approach to it
2 am cant sleep
Same with me lol
Sleeping is good
Yk i went to bed at 8:30 pm hoping i would sleep early nd fix my sleep schedule
But i havent been able to sleep
Try again
So at 12:30 i jst picked up my phone nd here i am….
ive been at it for hrs 😭
Lemme try again now ig
Yhh do that
To keep them disciplined, if you force them to be discipline, they would think that you are the monster who ask them to obey ur commands
Sleep & come again after a deep rest, gng
I also need a rest
bro honestly im not even wanting to argue on this shit rn 😂
yea
Y'all just stop the debate and rest or smth
yep im off to bed
gn folks
Or ur brains will be fried
Debate turned into an argument lol
Night
Yh lol
YES
SLEEP
tf is bro on
Idk
Sleep with
lmao rampage jackson
THen you would won't wake up from sleeping ☠️
Simple philosophical term: if I force my child to study or get disciplined, they will have to survive from me first because I am forcing them. So it does not make a sense.
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Yh, socializing wise
Best is normal schooling then homeschooling your kids on topics you feel they should know
Just home schooling isn't really great...
You can be bullied anywhere
So bullying isn't a valid point....
haters are everywhere
Same...
Ru ChatGPT in human form or some shit
School def is better in comparison to just extracurricular activities or families it’s a more diverse environment
And yea obviously good people have come out of homeschool
But a broken clock can also be right twice
Probably, but...
