Is Kindness Actually Stupid? | FriendZone Community Debate
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The FriendZone | Make Friends & Chat ⋅ Active Social Fun ⋅ Chill ⋅ VC community recently engaged in a deep discussion regarding the nature of kindness. Members debated whether kindness is a selfless act of human decency or a calculated effort that requires a reward. This conversation highlights the server's vibrant atmosphere where members explore philosophical topics while building meaningful relationships.
i mean being kind without expecting anything in return is stupid bc u r wasting ur energy for nothing. unless u get a emotion called joy which is a benfit
''unless u get a emotion called joy'' 😭
imo i think being kind is just having basic human decency towards other ppl.. i mean why wouldn't u want to be kind? and thats not saying that u should be rlly nice and let other ppl walk all over which is completely different. u can be respectful and kind towards ppl without losing anything which for example may be ur own self respect.
Agreed, being kidn is believing in humanity
I mean if it is then most emotions r stupid and humans should just stop feeling anything
No
Bc it will reward u
tryna look tuff hehhe. jokes aside unless u get something( joy,structure,favor)its rlly js useless
no, in reward u get joy
Kindness is optional, and you might not get anything in return, but it increases the chance, and can lead to relationships. Ive figured that out, and I utilize it because it feels right to me. If you dont want to be kind, thats you. Its basic human decency. Id even reccomend taking it further and continuing to be kind regardless of your relationship with the other person. It simply shows youre the better person.
Being nice and being kind are two different things, niceness is much more surface level and kindness is deep rooted
Whos to say you cant be both?
agreed
100% right
Ello!
True
Well ofc ppl can choose that but they're two different concepts used interchangeably
wassup
Agreed again
Not much of a reward and it doesn't always bring joy
Sure, but still. You can choose to be just "nice" to someone when you meet them to make a good impression, and when you get to know them, it can turn to genuine kindness.
The sky, why do you ask?
🤣 funny hahaa
Well being kind will still take much more effort
And its worth it.
Can depend
Being truly kind to someone is worth the effort tenfold, and can make both of your days, weeks, months, etc better.
Sure, theres no reason to be kind, but answer me this: Whats the reason not to?
Ig it depends on the person, like sometimes it feels like a waste to be kind to certain ppl unless they're a genuinely good person
I guess its a choice
People can appear rough while being kind, and even if that isnt the case, people can change. I did.
It very much is.
Some people prefer being real and straightforwad and some try to be nice
yup
cornball
Yeah
I wouldnt call it being "real", sometimes kindness is real.
Still not everyone does want to change, ofc that's more of an individual difference ig
Often times, even.
it depends on the situation tbh
And if they dont, thats them. Let them be them. Again, I ask. Whats the reason to be unkind?
u both are kind and real
Waste of energy on some people, not always tho
Thank you. Theres a subtle but real difference to appearing kind, and being kind.
Its important to know that distinction.
I agree
What energy are you wasting?
Wasting energy in order to be kind is the same as wasting energy to go to the gym. People use energy for anything, so usenit positively.
Idk like mental energy on those who don't acknowledge being at least decent to those who have been kind to them
That's physical Vs mental energy, different things
