Is Love a Soulmate or a Choice? | FriendZone Discussion
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FriendZone | Make Friends ⋅ Fun Chill Active Chat ⋅ VC Social Gaming ⋅ Memes ⋅ Nitro Emojis ⋅ Anime hosts a thought-provoking community debate on the nature of love. Members discuss whether relationships are defined by the concept of a 'soulmate' or by the daily, conscious choice to commit to a partner. This engaging thread highlights the importance of compromise, personal values, and the reality of long-term partnerships versus romanticized movie ideals.
Do u believe in the love this way, like soul mates or she/he is the "one" or simply a daily choice of choosing that person. Because if that person suddenly doesn't not like you anyone, u can't just say they weren't the "one". I think your daily act of choosing them over others is what makes them the "one"
I don't believe in the "one"
What kind of love
What do u believe in then
Doesn't explain anything
My bad. I just wanted a little explanation on what's love kind of love
I believe in the ability for two partners to compromise and get along and willingness to like grow whilst loving each other without having that idea of ooo he or she is the "one" for me which honestly lowers unrealistic standards of ooo if she /he is the "one" he should be able to do this and this yk ...I feel the concept of the "one"leaves little flexibility yet love is supposed to be anything but fixated on a certain ideology of how it should be let alone on who is supposed to give it to you the right way
Compromise 
. Can't do that
Well,there is the one where it's a feeling "a noun" and then there is the "verb". A daily act of choosing that one person
Well in love you have to... you can't expect someone to completely be subordinate to your decisions/lifestyle and way or thinking and neither them vice versa... you have to compromise
Still can't compromise. That would mean breaking my core values. Nd playing a role that isn't me
Alright 
Nah
I don't feel love in that way
Nothing really, just responsiblity and commitment
That's not compromising...no one's values have to be broken
I see
Kinda
More like a partnership
Yeah, because it's different from the movies
Welcome to reality
What's it like then
Well,I don't want to be a sacrifice
Oh yeah. My choice
that is the absolute thing many of us fail to see. Its not always butterflies, sometimes you have to choose the person even when it feels tough. And in my POV those "choosing them over anything" days are what means the most. Also that the other one should be able to do the same.
They grew up with Cinderella and beauty and the beast stories
It makes it hard to see the reality of things
man you're gonna make me cry this morning?
Huh
but yeah its true. As I said not all days are ALL GOOD sometimes its just "yes we made through it, and we make it together" moments which mean
like literally man how could u expect someone to not get bored after say 3 or 4 years
u simply do get bored
Would you compromise in a relationship?
my mom gets bored of my dad. My sister gets bored of me but we've been living together since 20 years now and mum and dad since 24
well it depends honestly. IF the significant other is like, damn man he compromised this why would I NOT be with him when he needs me. and not like "oh i didnt asked you to do it for me"
like you getting it?
Oh yeah
But I can't, I mean
I can't be nice because I have to please you
Or sacrifice my time when it's not needed
valid point but if the other person sees it and does that for u as well. Like I said, then oh man i'd just WHY WONT I DO IT
when the other person is choosing me over leaving or like over "yeah there's nothing "cool" now"
then why wont I choose them as well
I see
Also do you believe in the two halves makes a whole crap
I mean why can't we be both two wholes
I can definitely live without that one gurl
yeahhh... I might be controversial. But for me its more like, We grow together while still staying as two different person. And not like "nah i can live without her as well" cuz. whyyy bro. Why say it like that. Saying no she's not a part of my life and just a 'part' of my life. Yk. Its baddd men. When u choose someone then u dont choose them in good days ONLY and NOT AT ALL think that yall wont grow if u stay together
two people truly make something special when the two of them see the future beyond the problems and everything
Alright
I do believe in roles and rules before a relationship though
yuppp they cannn
I see
That's your view
Soul mates is something I don't believe in
I probably don't give much thoughts to even having a soul lol
What does a soul look or feel like
What's it made of
Hmm
Consciousness is just a brain process for me
Oh
U know all those are parts that your brain does
Anyways. Different views
Love is a rare feeling in modern society
If yall find loyalty on one another
I think it’ll all go according to plan
Probably a meh
