IT'S

NOT

RACIST

TO

HAVE

PERSONAL

PREFERENCES

Period

You have every right to not date someone because of their race, because IT ONLY AFFECTS YOU

No but im arguing that preferences are fine but ruling out an entire race is insane i think. Like sure maybe u dont find many white guys attractuve for example but completely rejecting the possibility you could ever find a white guy attractive is a weird take imo. Mayne not racist but definitely racist vibes

Do you AT LEAST know the definition of racism?

Beauty is subjective

You can DEFINITELY reject the idea of dating an entire race

It's how you say it, you can just say I like black guys, instead of I don't like Asian it's much better

And your preference shouldn't be harmful to others

Start saying their this and that

Please enlighten me about how a PERSONAL PREFERENCE regarding ONLY MY PRIVATE LUFE is "hArmFuL" to others?

Start thinking about this maybe

Well it's better to mention positive things than going off saying u wouldn't date someone based on a certain race, like yh that's fine since it's ur own choice but ppl shouldn't be showing that off that they don't like that certain race

Or multiple races

First of all dont crashout bro.
Second off if i told you i would date every race except for white guys and that i would never ever date a white guy no matter what he was like would that not at least seem weird to u

Read it again

First I was talking about the bs "ladyinblue" wrote

Second

I am fully in favour of you not dating whatever race you want

Because again

It's NOT racist to also consider race when dating

You're free to date whoever you want, idgaf. I'm in favour of you doing so

Later I'll explain

What bullshit?

That a personal preference is "hArMfUl" to others

Take all the time you need to stretch your bavk grandma😂

Kiddo have respect for adults😤

As I said depend on how you say it, like saying I don't like black ppl because their color is just horrible, and so on like you're saying bad stuff about it

Or using stereotypes as reason

Well ofc, but that isn't "being harmful", just rude

You think they'll feel good

They'll be hurt

Depressed

If THEY can't stand the idea that A TOTAL STRAMGER that has no relationship with them whatsoever says he wouldn't date them because of their race, they are not even adults, they shouldn't even vote or drive cuz they are immature kids

Someone that gets hurt by words that a stranger says are simply overgrown kids

Bro, they problem is not dating them it's what stupidity he's saying

How is a PERSONAL preference a stupidity?

Then they shouldn't arrest anyone for whatever they say

How dare you to decide what everyome should like and accept?

Freedom of speech woo

Do you understand stuff?

What does that has to do with anything that is being said here?

We have but it's limited

Then it's not freedom

Well race isn't smth ppl can just change so ig it's more iffy if ppl base their opinions on that, then again it would make more sense if there r more factors to it

That's why they say, your right stop when someone else start, you can't just say anything and go away w it

No, ky right never stops, otherwise it's a permission, not a right. I have the right of freedom of speech as a human, and it never ends. Nor does yours or anyone else's end.

I have every right to find a black or indian girl not attractive to date them and hence decide to completely avoid dates with them. The problem might rise if I use them to get dates and then leave and hurt them, but that's another discussion entirely then.

That makes sense tho then again it could be seen as a more individual thing on how u see certain others, it could be less to do with someone's actual race and more to do with how they look, personality, actions etc

Which again makes perfect sense, hence disproving the original take that such views can be "racist"

Well then technically it doesn't have much to do with race anyways

Still factors to it tho

I mean, it does but as a personal level, hence it can be seen as "racist" given that racism is something that is pushed on others to justify discrimination on a third party

Makes sense

Preference and having a type is okay
But going about broadcasting that you won't date a particular race is give rasict vibes

Then call me racist luxe, ihdc

Hehehe

never knew race was part of the checklist. I thought all you need was to be a decent human

This is facts

That comment wasn't specified to anyone
So why replying me.... Like I myself care tf...
Or are you obsessed with me Wolfee.....🫴
I see racist as dumb people so Ig I have the permission to call you dumb henceforth....

Yh
More fun.....
why don't you make one yourself or is alpha scared of being reported by those who would take it serious..... 😅
Poor alpha (Omega)

ik we lowkey disagreed in the past but ur cooking in this hottake lol

Ok

what's ur type in alien

It’s def not racist lmfao

That’s like saying I prefer thin women means you’re fatphobic

This is not the take you think it is , you can be racist and still be friends with that same race. A lot of people do it⁉️

Doesn’t work the same bc usually not wanting to date a specific race is rooted in racism and you can control your weight but not your race.

Tbh it's more rooted in beauty standards. Weak-minded peopl use the racism card to not think that there are people that find them ugly

Well it’s called hypocrisy

So it's more like I don't like you rather then I don't like you because you are from this place?

That has nothing to do with race then

Nah this doesn’t work either bc each race comes with people that have different traits. There are some traits that are more common in certains races, that is true but that doesn’t mean that EVERYONE from that race has them. It is rooted in racism not bc people are crybabies but bc it’s true. And a lot of things are rooted in racism too.

Well duh?

Some people just have preferences. It's not like you'll know who your soulmate is just by race alone, but preference isn't racist. You want to spend life with someone who is right for you. Although you're shutting yourself out of potential suitable partners, it's completely understandable.

Well, I personally do not have any issues with any race. We are born in those races not chosen. Well, I do agree that people in a race share things in common. But why would have no no be based on what they have in common as a race. I'm trying to get into a relationship with a person Nd not a "race"

I simply don't find dark skin attractive. It doesn't mean that I don't recognize that there are some people from that race that are good looking, but I simply don't find it attractive. How is that rooted in racism?🤣

"It's rooted in racism cuz it's true" if you give me a better argument than this I'll actually take you seriously

Oh. Now you are being specific about what you don't like. The dark skin Nd not the race.

Yh exactly, race isn't smth that we just pick and other things abt having a type should have more focus imo

You’re contradicting yourself , how can you find someone good looking without thinking they’re attractive ? It’s called colourism. where does colourism come from ? Racism.

Yes, but because (in this example) dark skin is specific of a race, I can safely say I wouldn't date that specific race (and others too). Like that other guy from before that said he wouldn't date white guys cuz they don't like fair skin and prefer darker ones. It's not racism, it's just preferences

That's not a racial trait, that's skin colour

Your choice is based on skin colour = colourism = born from racism.

All I see is a very spread misunderstanding of the meaning of the word "racism"

Yeah. I could say I don't like dark skin people but it's not about the race. Wait ,I don't even have standards lol

So if I don't like red hair is that "hairism"?

Like how on Earth can you vote?

💀

Racism
RACE

It's possible to see that someone is good looking and not find them attractive tho, I mean for me that's how I may see others

So why not say the pref rather than the whole race. Anyways, racism is hate or feeling superior, pref isn't hate I guess

So you are fine bud

Yeah. Pref isn't racism

Bro, you know damn well people with red hair weren’t treated as inferior to other humans. 🤔

Because I recognize that they have a specific set of traits that makes them "conventionally" attractive, at least for that specific vulture/race, but that I personally don't find those traits enough to make me feel romanitcally attracted to that person

Same way you can 👌

It's like not liking a noodles, that doesn't mean you hate on all pastas

Oh ok, so you do admit it's all about playing the victim.

Yh that's more to do with how someone looks tho

And btw redheads were often considered demons or witches and b*rned or killed

Especially in Medieval Europe

People still do that?

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK ARE YOU SAYING!?🤣 🤣

Or dark times?

This

Bro if you don’t want to date black people, no one’s forcing you and honestly idc. I’d be a hypocrite if I did. But you don’t like a skin colour which is called colourism and you can’t deny that it comes from racism. 😭

EXACTLY

Ofc the pasta always saves the day

🤣 🤣

How is it about playing the victim? there’s a reason hairism isn’t a word. That was my point.

I just don't find it attractive bro. But if you want to be the "good guy" and play the victim card accusing me of being "bad" just so you can feel slightly important and satisfy your ego to justify a sad life, be my guest

You don't hate the people,you just don't want a partner who has a certain trait right

Your point revolves completely around calling me the bad guy so you can play the part of the good guy and feel better about yourself

Uh not sure if this is exactly racism based on preferences but I was once told by someone to not date specifically Filipinos since apparently they struggle to express themselves which is a trait I wouldn't like (they themselves were dating one)

Exactly. But apparently that's bad cuz God forbid people have unique preferences

Never came in here trying to satisfy my ego and didn’t mean to paint you as the bad guy. You date whoever you want.

How is a psychological and extremely personal trait based on race?😭 Whoever told you that clearly didn't like Filipinos that's prob why

People just have issues with history.

I never called you a bad guy , why are you acting like a victim? I’m just saying that colourism is an actual thing all over the world and it comes from racism that’s it.

Idk and no that person who told me was literally dating a Filipino, they said that they apparently can't show their emojis or smth but I shouldn't date one

Because you are actively trying to paint my personal preference as "racism", hence attacking my personal idebtity and (willingly or not) painting me as a racist in front of others

Hmm. Why do we even look at colour as a problem?

For the kids?

Lol well they prob thought their partner represented the whole race

All I wanted to point out is that people being offended by your personal preference when it comes to race isn’t necessarily them playing the victim card but it’s true that racial preference can be rooted in racism that’s all. Didn’t mean to make you feel that way, mb.

Yh probs tho they did have experiences with a few of the same race

Right. If racism was never a thing

Then all colours would be okay and attractive right

But I, like every sane person, couldn't give a singular shit about how others feel about MY PERSONAL PREFERENCE THAT IMPACTS ONLY MY OWN LIFE. If they get offended by others having different preferences and opinioms than them, they should lock themselves up in their own houses, never come out and save all of us from heaving headaches from dealing with this attention seekers

Could sorta be, tho diff ppl may sought for diff colours but it'd be less of focusing on trying to get lighter for much of the world (for example India)

Prob. It might also be a culture thing. Idk about the Filipino culture, but I can suppose they though that their partner was being reserved with their emotions due to their own culture yk

So what if someone only likes someone of a completely diff race than them? Are they racist towards themself?

Lmfao🤣 🤣

Gotcha ig

Like a Mexican girl ONLY likes black guys. Is she racist towards Mexicans ?

Internalised racism is a thing but that's diff since it'd be a personal preference and doesn't mean they hate their own race

This seems like the racist apocalypse

Why do we have an issue with colour. Isn't not like it a trait that causes harm. Oh I guess it's like I don't like short people thingy I guess

That’s called being a fetishist and those people are often weird af ngl

Good luck explaining to a black person who only dates their race that they’re actually internally racist

Yh I'm guessing it was more of a cultural thing than to do with race tbh

How can you make a fetish out of a type?

All my exes were comp sci majors so I have a software engineer fetish

They were all taller than me so do I have a tall fetish

They were all men

So I have a man fetish

LMFAO

I mean u could connect it to history and certain ideas being pushed but yh, preferences r diff

it’s called having a type.

Can’t really blame those people that are still victims of discrimination for reacting strongly, that’s their reality.

More like those are what you are into

🤣

Imagine getting rejected by someone and just saying that they’re racist bc they don’t fw you

Could have always tried the opposite

Sounds more like you want to dictate how others should think, feel and act with their own lives...

East Asians have sometimes said it is from others liking their race, not sure if that counts tho

Indeed

🤣

Yea this sounds like a person who was rejected bc they weren’t someone’s type and is just trying to cope with it rn

yeah theres nothing wrong dating somebody thats also into interracial love too

True, since sometimes they may have had experiences related to traits of them that they can't control

No, reality is that they should stop acting like kids, and more like mature adults cuz nothing is handed to them. They, LIKE EVERYONE ELSE ON THIS FUCKING FLOATING ROCK, have to work for it and earn it

Oh. So biological factors are the main issues? I thought we were more like worried about the other factors like character, personality, etc. the non physical parts of a person

No that’s great but the argument is for people who only date specific races and not open their holes for all

Exactly💯

idk what else to say this is a strange topic

Also why are we disregarding the fact that maybe people who only date within their own race share the same cultural values and morals ?

Not everything is surface level as in looks or skin color are we that shallow

Cause I have never left my country

If you’ve only dated comp sci majors that doesn’t mean that you’re entirely against dating anything else. Earlier you mentioned a Mexican or white girl that ONLY dates black guys and nothing else. Like she wouldn’t consider dating anything else , so if she had the perfect man according to her standards but he isn’t black she wouldn’t date him. why not ? It’s a bit obsessive and that’s how fetishists act.

You can't date outside what you don't see

💯

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Or maybe that's simply how preferences works?

Would you say the same thing if I said she only dates white guys

Depends what's being focused on, physical traits Vs non-physical and ppl will focus on one or the other more sometimes or judge in an equalish way

No, that is white supremacism or racism. I'm sure she'll say this

I couldn’t care less , you don’t think it’s weird if someone only dates a specific race and doesn’t care for the others ? Like if you were around someone that’s like I only only only want a Peruvian bf ever when they’re not , you wouldn’t find that weird at all?

Bro you can be friends with people while being racist in private , it’s called being a hypocrite? I’m not calling you a hypocrite I’m just saying that saying that doesn’t get your point across.

I guess so

That's for those who don't want to branch out which is also fine since it's a set idea for many ppl

No? Why is it someone's job to care for others? And if YOU find other people's preferences wierd, maybe you're the racist one cuz according to your vision of reality, everyone should think and act like you do or they're "wierd"

Yeah I would

I'm sorry but you only sound like a narcisist

Yh exactly

you said you don't find black attractive when it comes to a partner, why exactly?

Big words 😹

If you have black friends and you say slurs and make racist comments but smile to their face that would make you a hypocrite ?

What about men who prefer curvier women? Are we gonna shame them for not giving the already desirable skinny women a chance?

No! Because what’s wrong with people who know what they want?

If they’re dating someone who is their type, the other party isn’t being forced to date them the attraction is clearly mutual

I just don't find particulary attractive darker skins in general. Even slightly "whiter" skins like the indian one or the middle eastern one.

💯

No one’s forcing or shaming anyone for their choices

Says the one that use "racism" without knowing its meaning, stripping the word of its impirtance

you literally said that my hypothetical girl who only dates black guys has a fetish!!!! LMFAO

So what's the difference btw the ones you find attractive and the others, it's all just colour in the end

YOU CALLED MY PREFERENCES RACIST YOU MORON

Nah I meant that the “I’m not racist bc I have black friends” line doesn’t work in general

Some Indians might literally look whiter than 'white' ppl

racial discrimination
- the belief that different races possess distinct characteristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish them as inferior or superior to one another.

On a physical level yes, then there's also personality and how they act yk. But to het to that, it means I've already ruled out the physical part, otherwise I wouldn't even consider it

Lol yeah, you've never seen a scandinavian probably 🤣

Well if she only wants to date black guys when she’s not black what’s the reason behind not wanting to date anything else ?

And where does thay definition fits into this argument about PERSONAL PREFERENCES IN DATING?

What's racism exactly then, I'm guessing negative discrimination against a group of people only cos their race

Because she thinks they’re attractive ????????

Maybe she likes darker skins?

I only date men. I’ve never been attracted to women nor have I ever had any desire to experiment. Am I sxist?

Well idk I've just seen some 'non-white' who could pass of as literally Scandinavian or European even tho they're Asian or smth

If any of yall pass on her you’re a racist

That, but when you also push your views of superiority/inferiority of races on others, trying to convince people to treat people differently because of race

🤣 🤣

🤣 🤣

I didn’t call YOUR preference racist , I literally explained to you earlier that my point was that when you say that you wouldn’t want to a certain race the people reacting strongly and calling it racism isn’t necessarily wanting to be victims but it’s because having a preference when it comes to race CAN be rooted in racism. I never called YOU a racist. I said that some people that have racial preferences CAN be racist.

Still don't understand why we have preferences

Fucking clankers

There’s a word for that , it’s called sexuality

Right. Based on what you find attractive!

Your whoel point doesn't make sense. You just said MY preferences are based in racism, so it automatically means that you're calling ME racist you illitterate idiot

The most amazing thing about attraction is that it’s mysterious and there’s no one that can decide it for you but yourself. There’s no need to feel like you need to mansplain why you fw people.

Ah ok that makes sense

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Gosh I hope when I’m at my wedding with my lightskin Mexican husband I don’t need to justify why I find them attractive and how I’m not a racist

Can you check your DMs pls the server won’t let me send a definition

I'm not attracted to very short girls because of the whole height difference. A logical reason

Lmfao you just have to invite woke people to your wedding😂

Just read it. I get what you’re trying to say but who are we to police others for their relationship choices

i just told you that I didn’t say that. I do believe that some people genuinely have no interest in a certain race without being racist but some people can have the same standards with not so good thoughts behind that’s it. I never said you were one of them, all I was discussing is you calling other cry babies over smth that is very much real.

I didn't expect physical traits to be so important tbh, valid if u want a certain look for a lover but tbh personality seems like a better focus (at least an afterthought that u should mainly focus on)

Not trying to police, just trying to understand why they make those choices

Physical traits matter if you meet the body before the mind of the person

Is “you’re not my type. They’re my type” not enough for you?

Well I just find it kinda weird that someone even dislikes their own to that point but I wouldn’t go out of my way to be like : hey you’re a fetishist and so so weird. That’s their personal choice, if their partner is ok with it , I don’t have anything to say.

I'm calling crybabies people that gets offended by other people's opinion, CUZ THAT'S WHAT THEY ARE.

Nope.

Well ppl do have opinions abt many things and we're discussing it here, everyone will always have issues with how certain ppl may act, think, have preferences of (even outside of love)

If you say you don't like short guys, I look at the height and also maybe if you are doing it for like wanting tall kids

True ig

I don’t like skinny white blonde men. But I am super attracted to my lightskin Mexican boyfriend who could be white passing. I’m half Mexican. Am I half racist ?

Well a cry baby is someone who cries for no reason , I think there’s a reason in this case but you’re not the category that they should be calling out.

50% racist, bro got nerfed🤣

Nah. You are not racist. Why don't you like skinny white blonde guys though

Not my type

Why do you have a type

🤣🤣

Attraction works in mysterious ways

Oh, so now it's about dividing people into categories, I see... I can clearly understand what kind of person you are...

Looking for a logical reason

Well I don’t like skinny white blonde men bc I don’t like the colour combo

Especially with blue eyes

Why. Is it just on a biological level reason?

Trueee what about the people who prefer brunettes over blondes? Are they haircist?

Oh, well according to a certain someone in this chat that can be rooted into racism...

All are fine

Bro, I just said that you shouldn’t be a target when people calling out racism bc you’re not racist ? How do you manage to find a problem in that. 🫩

Sorry, I've already trademarked the word "hairism" and all its derivations. You now have to pay me 12 quadrillion dollars

Hmmm 🤔 honestly I think blue eyes are scary and I think blonde accentuates the blue eyes.

It's just a colour

Don't worry, I'm just enjoying myself into calling you out for the hypocritical and pointless argument you made before

Yeah I’m racist af

Indeed

Oh no ref do something!

I KNEW YOU WERE JUST PROJECTING🤣 🤣

I don’t like that colour

A cat is also a sufficient form of payment

I told you I’d be a hypocrite if I called you a racist over racial preference earlier, you’re not even paying attention. You just like to “debate”. You’re bored af. 🤣

I guess that's what comes with when you have many choices but the people born with it didn't choose those though

Big words from someone that knows the meaning of half of them

But it’s ok tho

Those people can date someone else too

Unfortunately, the whole dating system is kinda broken

Those days pref were simple I guess

Yeah unfortunately you can’t be everyone’s type 🙁

Nah, only if you give up too soon

Yea because everyone was ACTUALLY racist

Thank God

But he is a good guy, doesn't that matter?

💯 🤣

I’m bored too but I do know the meanings of the words I use

Sure

From what I'm getting at, u basically mean ppl shouldn't be saying how they prefer not to date certain races because of things related to them like facial features or smth...? (Idk how to explain now)

Isn't racism hate?

I don’t think you should date someone only for their personality , a relationship without physical attraction is pretty much over from the start 💀

I'd give an example but I'd sound rude💀

Sent you the def I just think you dislike me , bro called me a narcissist 😭

What if I liked them before I saw them in "body"

Bodies get old in the end

I would probably go for the unphysical parts of a person

But most of the time is what makes you get interested in the first place

Not really

I’m saying that people shouldn’t say they don’t want to date a whole race bc of offensive reasons kinda yeah.

I have liked someone before I even got to know what they looked like

Well once you see them in body you will end up disliking them at some point

If someone you find unattractive keeps pushing for physical interactions you’ll be pretty annoyed

Then that means I never liked them.

What the fuck are we talking about once you see them “in body”

Physically

Like in real life , I think that’s what he meant?

Are we talking about a love is blind situation?

Oh alr, valid

I don’t really know how they fell in love without seeing each other 😭

Let's say you talk to a person for like years but you don't know what they look like. Just texts Nd calls Nd VN. No pictures or videos or physical meeting. Would you like them at some point?

The show has examples of that where people meet through a wall and fall in love sight unseen. But there are some who DO have previous racial preferences that either get redefined or reinforced.

Some ppl literally just have a type even if they TRY to be attracted to someone that differs

I think if you get a long well you can develop a crush but honestly I don’t think I could ever fall in love with someone I’ve never even seen

Without meeting irl is alr pretty hard but faceless ? Hell nah

But they didn't choose their body I guess

So do you like them as the body

Or as a mind

That is true and it is what it is

Could possibly be connected to what's considered 'conventionally attractive' to them

Kinda of sad though.

You can like the way someone thinks , their personality etc but if you’re not attracted to them then there’s no point in pursuing them romantically. That’ll just lead to wandering eyes.

If you don’t find them attractive , stay friends

Not rly unless their preferences align with society’s standards which are NOT reflected in the show

There was a guy who said he preferred big booty latinas even though his fiance was objectively GORGEOUS but she was thin hot and blonde

What if I am okay with the non physical

Yh true ig

Well are they ok with it tho? As long as the two of you are ok with it , it’s aight

Ngl that's a bit funny (no hate tho)

It made AMAZING reality tv u should rly give it a watch

One of my fav shows

Nice. At least I know that they didn't choose their biology but the personality Nd all that they did

What's the name again, love is blind? (I can't keep up with these messages)

A relationship is between two people , it’s all about what the two of you are ok with. Don’t let others influence it. 👍

Right

Yes it’s on Netflix! There’s helllla seasons if u actually want to give it a chance just dm and I can point you to a good season to watch first

Tbh I'm not rly someone who's interested in love and all that but I might check it out, maybe

Well then I’d point you to one of the messier seasons 🤣💀💀

They’re the better ones to watch but there are ppl that actually find their spouses on this show and many have families now

Oh cooll

Which ones

Season 6 is PEAK ASF

or season 4 is really good

There was a girl who described herself that she looked like megan fox while in the pods and when they did the reveal the guy said that “she lied” 💀💀😭😭🤣

Oh wow hahaha

Dirty black fellow. (Mama didn't allow me to say the n word)

At the end of the day, be happy what type of man or woman you'll be with regarding of the color of their skin bc we're all human either way not other species

Having a preference is okay....
Just like saying I prefer black men okay but saying I will never date an Asian man
Then go extra miles to public shame the other person or broadcasting it gives racist vibe
Especially if you don't have any useful reason just because of their race...

No one cares if you serious or not ,Mt,
Your only power is blocking others when you have not to defend yourself with
What are you without a block button.....?
A coward....?

Is this" the rise dumb crackers"
Interesting comedy...

It's preferences
Can't you get the point but completely removing them for your list without any reasonable reason is bias...
And going about broadcasting it
Your preferences is for your not others...

Everyone has preferences and it's okay

Everyone has their choices
Black,white , Asian etc....
When it gets to racism is exempting one race without any reasonable reason and broadcasting it like it's anyone's business

Preference has nothing to do with racism....

MAXIS cooking up the hea t

I never said it wasn’t ok to have preferences. Racism is def not as narrow as you define it. There are lotsss of layers to it. You can have a preference that comes from racism, those two aren’t necessarily separate.

Racism or no racism some people can have preferences on even little things that might not matter to you like skin colour, height,eye colour etc
Still preference may or may not be from racism

That’s literally what I was trying to get that guy to understand. I’m not saying that him not wanting to date a race = he’s a racist but that some people have preferences based on racism. So he can’t just say that preferences never have anything to do with racism.

Never said anything about public shame wtf ru on

I think attraction preference is literally based on an inherit bias for any trait about someone

But yea obviously if you’re just a shit person who is racist and uses that as the only justification for dating/not dating someone that’s different

I guess I have a shot being black then ..HI👋

On a more serious note I think racism has got to do with viewing a certain race as inferior and an issue of preference has got nothing to do with that ... It's best to know what you like as a human

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Same stuff that you are on......
can't you see that I was giving an instance of when such so called preferences turn to racism....

Whoever wrote it is an idiot thinking they're not one