Marriage Promises: Manipulation or Commitment? | FriendZone
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Some men throw around marriage promises just to make you lower your guard. Suddenly it's ^^you're going to be my wife anyway, so what's the problem^^Next thing you know, they're using the idea of a future together to get whatever they want in the present.
The truth is a lot of them don't have wedding plans they have access plans. They sell you the dream of being a wife so you'll ignore the red flags, give more of yourself, and stay invested. Then once they've gotten what they wanted, they disappear and move on to the next person.
Ig but not always
Can sometimes happen on either side, not exclusive to one
I'm agreeing with Maggie
This.....
Yourself, future , well-being before marriage
Marriage is only good when you are matured, prepare, have your own future and won't tolerate disrespect
marriage is a social construct at the end of the day, and society tells us massivly one thing : a woman who after a certain age is not married will end up alone and useless, a man who is also not married will end up not succedding in life because he needs the single woman to take care of him like his mom took care of him. it can be possible for a man and a woman to have a good marriage where both are sane normal healthy people but lets bfr most people dont have the critical skills to think about WHY they wanna marry someone, especially when its only for commodity
I mean if you’re still fantasising about marriage in the big 26, it’s on you.
No
always
Society and family pressure can push them
that’s why she said some and she’s not saying always…..this is prolly from experience
Yes
Yh so I said it can happen either side
How can you give an exemple
Argee
Like either side could be using the other for money
this post isn’t ab people using each tone for money…..
it’s the threat of using marriage to get what u want
Ik I was using that as an example, sometimes ppl decide to go into a marriage in order to get money from the other person
And sometimes if the other person wants to divorce, they might get made to pay more money cos of it
This almost happened to someone I knew so they had to cancel their engagement
only happens with no prenup and if you break ur marriage contract
I don't think the contract was broken, stuff like this does happen even with a contract
Like it the other family have got good ties with certain people
no it doesn’t actually, a marriage contract u stay loyal…u break that ur entitled to compensation, prenup u don’t have one anything u make after marriage is split no matter who owns it
not…even a thing
It is even if it doesn't happen in most places
there isn’t more than two people in a marriage contract? idk what the fuck that has to do with the marriage contact
what
Well what I mean is they almost got decieved into making a contract which would cause him to be stuck in the marriage and pay a hefty amount if he wanted to divorce (they were engaged before anything any it was known)
there’s protection for that if ur in the US other places idk
No I mean certain places, where it's family who r involved with the contract (not talking abt love marriages btw)
Yeah I'm not talking abt the US, some places don't have it
bro people need to start clarifying what the fuck they mean like this is how arguments start ppl not being specific like idk what u r tryna say i only interpret the message u sent
Was I not clear when I replied, I'm not even trying to sound rude here
no honestly i thought u were referring to all around the world
i’m like no most parts have protections against that
Technology I am, stuff like laws r also not always followed (if they were then exploitation wouldn't be a thing still)
no that’s not true, cases arent made bc there’s a thing called reasonable doubt, if u prove it in the case it gets thrown out and most are that’s why it’s so hard to prove it
exploitation will always be a thing
even if rules r followed
I don't rly get it from ur wording
reasonable doubt, doubt that it happened. Prove it, cases closed.
water found in ocean
ur fucking weird
It isn't that easy in other countries tbh
why?
yea i’m saying in the us….bc we have due process other countries i have no fucking clue bc i live in the us….
that’s what i’m saying
