Relationship Advice: Reason vs. Excuse | FriendZone
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The FriendZone | Make Friends ⋅ Fun Chill Active Chat ⋅ VC Social Gaming ⋅ Memes ⋅ Nitro Emojis ⋅ Anime community recently held a deep discussion on the difference between reasons and excuses in romantic relationships. Members shared perspectives on physical touch, personal boundaries, and compatibility issues. This thread highlights the importance of mutual respect and communication, offering a supportive space for members to navigate complex emotional challenges together.
Okay so there’s this one person that I used to really like. He was all about physical touch— like holding hands, huggin and everything like that, I wasn’t, and I was actually really uncomfortable with doing all of that— but whenever I told him that, he’d always ask why and tell me to give him reasons, and whatever I said he always said it was an excuse. Just saying I was uncomfortable wasn’t enough for him. My love language personally is just giving gifts, but that wasn’t enough for him.. and I knew that, but I held onto the relationship for as long as I could anyways. But anyways the real question is what’s the difference between a reason and an excuse?
An excuse would be you saying it makes you uncomfortable as a way to avoid doing it without a valid reason. That’s not your case bc it makes you uncomfortable, if he really liked you he wouldn’t be pushing so much for stuff you dislike. He only cares about himself and what he wants or likes.
Didn’t really answer your question but just ditch him ngl
Harsh truth
He did not really love u
you aren't trying enough
you need to be better so he can actually get interested in you
get surgery or something
not everything you disagree with is rage bait
thats really immature, but ig we are in discord
Closer to an excuse than a reason for this part lowk.
You tried too hard to stay with him.
or her.
Either or.
HEY
That ain’t love
If someone actually cared about you then your comfort should be the priority
However most people in romantic relationships feel most fulfilled when they feel physically loved
It doesn’t seem like you’re romantically compatible because it’s just causing stress to both parties
And also, if physical affection is something you don’t want at all, you need to be upfront/transparent and avoid getting into relationships like this in the first place
If your partner still can't meet your needs after a discussion, it should be noted as a sign of incompatibility and a reason to end the relationship imo.
An excuse is a cover-up for an actual reason. "My dog ate my homework!"
Although you weren't making excuses, it seemed he didn't believe you 💔
A person who doesn't respect your boundaries or care about how you feel doesn't love you
Omg XIEXIE guys
