Should Parents Be Forgiven for Trauma? | FriendZone Debate
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I'm not talking about small mistakes like forgetting your birthday and all. I'm talking the ones which change you as a human being sometimes with trauma,etc.
So should parents be forgiven for such grave mistakes?
People celebrate birthdays lol?
Nah
They shouldn't
Why?
Depends on the level of abuse, I think emotional is forgivable as long as it's moderate, not extreme
But what if it affected the person very much, in a bad way
If the person can use that experience to become stronger than still forgivable but if not then idk
So it doesn't matter if your mental health is at stakes. All it matters is whether you became strong because of it or not?
If it causes a lot of damage which affects their kid long term then they shouldn't rly be forgiven, also if it's smth which happened over yrs
Yes, but they are your parents
Parents shouldn't cause pain into their kids
I mean extremely negative
But they are the ones who are taking care of you. They are the ones because of whom you are alive, surviving. So I think they deserve the forgiveness
Not saying that but life has lots of instances where you have to play the hand your dealt, so your bad experiences can either make you or break you
What if those experiences broke you so hard that it improved your performances but still it left you with mental issues?
So their kids should be grateful for that? I don't think that holds much weight if the parent/s decide to not treat them well and possibly cause them trauma which affects them as they grow into adults
Ok. But should their kids be fighting against their parents to fight against such acts or should they just not forgive them and ignore them?
That would be called taking the good with the bad, I have confidence and self esteem issues from how I was raised but what would blaming my parents get me? Nothing
So you don't even try to tell them about how their actions are affecting your mental health?
I don't think they can rly fight them, especially when they're dependent on others in order to get their basic needs, all they could do is try and work on building good relations with those who don't cause them issues when they're more grown up and from there it depends what they would personally wanna do
So they should just remain silent to all the mental torture which your parents are giving you?
I mean you can but usually when parents cause abuse they are not actively aware of it in the moment
Tbh that might be the only option some have, but if they know someone they can trust (like a brother/ sister figure or a close friend) it might be easier for them to go through it
At some point you would just get tire of keeping the hate or hurt🤧
So you're gonna wait it that point comes in your life?
Speaking of experience
Kinda had the whole abandonment thingy
Also not forgiving doesn't necessarily mean keeping hatred against them, especially if it's from past events which don't have as much weight in the present
So being not aware of what you're doing makes you not guilty of the action?
Is that what you're trying to say?
But, I just try to move on Nd live my life since you can't change the past
At times they might be aware but won't consider it as that
But can at least forgive since it doesn't remove anything from you
No they are guilty but depending on the treatment can still be forgiven
How?
Good point
Not easy being a parent btw
Because parents are human too
It's their first time living their lives also
Just wait till you gets kids Nd see how far you do
So humans can get away with ruining someone's peace of mind and still be forgiven?
Doesn't mean actively hurting the kid, not always a physical thing too
Yes
It's a personal choice
Yeah
And is it just because they are superior than you ?
Or is the reason something different
Forgiving them doesn't make the past right or okay. But at least you have try to let go of a few things I guess
Yes but we gotta know if that choice actually helps that individual or not
Doesn't sound right, that person could get an unstable mind cos of what happened to them (I don't mean crazy, just not much peace)
