Should Women Propose to Men? Community Debate
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Drop ur thoughts belowq
thats gay
Have no thoughts just dropping myself
True lol
Proposing to a man is like asking your jailer for a longer sentence. No thanks
Womer who propose to men are actually men down their
Lol
I think the man should do it, just more traditional
Their choice but for me no no
Why don't the man take the initiative it is kinda embarrassing for the man is she does it first
If it was just asking out for a date better but proposing....
Unless she just did it for a surprise or just for sake of fun
The question is is he gay ??
As a man, I think it’s cute
They are okay
Cute both ways
This....
I feel rly bad for women who propose to their men
Like if he wanted to he would
It's not a bad thing if they want to propose, proposing isn't exclusively from a man so either side can do it
And rejecting them is also fine
Totally Valid!!
Well. It's not a bad thing. Looking at the definition of what a proposal is. I don't think it has any gender assigned to the role, well. For parts of history it did in a way for some reasons idk of. Yeah, it doesn't matter if anyone wants to do it ig
Only becomes an issue when you are a person who expect default Nd traditional way of how it's done
I’m all for girlbossing but that’s too far
How's it far?
Well, to begin
We look at what a proposal is
The very definition
It just ain’t it fam
It also could indicate that the man waited too long to propose which is also another huge red flag
If you’re like a weird Hetero couple then ok good for you makes sense but for normal heteros it’s just sad
Well. "A proposal is a formal request/ritual where one person in a relationship asked their partner to marry them"
That involves, one person doing it and both are partners
It shouldn't matter who does it
If both are willing to marry
If you say if the man waited too long to propose that it's a sign that is red flag
What about the lady, why is it not a red flag for her not to initiate when she is ready
Both people are in for it so it's not a one sided thing
It's like if he has to propose then he is the one willing to marry and not both
I don't know if you get me
I mean there is no orthodox way of love. But in general it should be the guy who proposes imo.. like why even let it get down to that point where she has to propose. Obviously complications exists and whatever works out for individuals is their own concern..
Why should it be the guy 
I totally agree
I dont really understand why is it a men's thing only!
I think it should be the guy only
Unromantic and a bit embarrassing
i think
You dont expect a girl to put a ring on you cmon. Be a man and take the initiative.
What is “Be a man”
"I'm a man" be a man is forced. Nothing is wrong with the initiative being made by the other person
They're things that are associated with masculinity and femininity him saying be a man is telling you to do stuff associated with masculinity
Well, why is one considered romantic and the other not. It's romance something that is of two people, what happened to the agency of the lady
Proposing is something seeing as associated with masculinity
Well, that's cause, movies, history and society all that decided those for me. I was never consulted when when those association assigning was made.
Can a man carry a pregnancy ? Ofc not if they do it'll be not seeing as romantic
Then you should carry a child next time
Love that!
I would like to say that pregnancy and the topic at hand at two different things. I was just asking who defines what's romance and what those scripts are
And women dont have male body parts, whats ur point
It's all just a bit toxic, forcing roles and things I didn't bargained for. I was never consulted and those don't make me any less of a man. A man is defined by the state of which I was born in not what I am expected to do
Exactly, totally unrelated
Ofc men and women cant be equal in the physical sense. But we are equaly in a cerebral sense.
and - damn!!! The best duo on the planet!!!!
Love you guys!!!!!
Well, some things have to be looked at
I can't just take on things that were decided before when I was born
For real
The biological fact wasn't just it for this context
Exactlyyy
Tanks
Exactly! People decided some things in totally different contexts and circumstances. And we should be stupid enough to follow it.
Don’t understand that shit at all
For real. They don't even question why it was the man's role as per history when it's a stuff that both of the said people can do. It's time to give back the "agency Nd initiative to both people" well, if there is risk in such an act then it's fair Nd equal Nd logical for both to share that
Exactlyyyyy!!!
So just found out. Marriage back then as history had it was a financial and legal transaction . Women had less rights Nd power. So it did make sense for the man to be the one doing that since he held both legal and economical power. But times have changed, both genders are arriving at a point of equality, so hanging unto a rule ofa different era without understanding why it was so is just illogical
Yeahh! I think men and women have also been fed some concepts since birth and they are also based on these historical gender roles.
That explains why a woman would want the man to propose and why people think being a man is proposing
But people need to realise the difference between what equality really is. And its okay to have personal preferences, but making comments in generality that men should propose, without even having a logical reason is ignorant
For real, we grow up with Media, literature and society scripts . You are right, nothing is logical bonding those acts to a specific gender
Personal pref is okay like you said, but making that as a baseline for others too is not right, what about their own preferences
If lady seek to do it, fine by all
If a guy seek to do it fine by all
It shouldn't be awkward cause it isn't
Exactly my pointtt
Yeah
People shouldn't do things become who or what they are but rather based on if they want to do it
hello
Taking responsibility. If you’re making your woman buy a ring for you then its kind of pathetic.
Obviously there’s exceptions to relationships so im not really going there. But in general if you’re the man of the house, its ur responsibility to propose.
yea well you do u wait for your wife to propose 👍
Yup, well said my man!!
That's where you might be understanding our point in the wrong way. One I'm not making someone get me a ring, two I'm giving both people the freedom to do what they want which is both can propose if they want. Well, the responsibility you speak of, sounds like forced upon ones not one I took on by myself. Third, your logic of man of the house sounds like making the man everything in a relationship
My pleasure miss!!
It's okay for you to do it if you want to, but you shouldn't be doing it just because you are a guy but rather because you want to do it
GOD! I couldn’t agree more
Exactlyyyy
And not take offence if you woman proposes u before u propose her
Why would anyone be offended by that. A man doing it is because he wants to be with her, a lady doing it should mean the same. Or ladies don't want to be with their partners?
I agree, but here I feel based on the previous chats, guys would get offended just because they got proposed too
Its not something “forced” upon you. You’re literally in a relationship with someone by your OWN choice. If you dont have the intent to marry them then just step off either way its irrelevant.
Putting that aside, the “responsibility” is not a burden that someone has to be put through. If ur a guy, its not an obligation but if you’re a good man to your woman, you should be paying for things. Getting it down to the point where she has to buy the wedding ring for her own self is just not something that i or most men would want personally, idk abt u.
And about the thing u said that responsibilities were decided before you were born so you never really got to “choose” what u wanna do. Yea thats right nobody gets to choose what they want to be. You’re either born as a man biologically, or a woman. Every man has responsibilities which hes supposed to take care of, includes making bread for the house, helping your wife out with things, teaching values to your children, etc. Nobody “wants” to take on responsibilities but the world doesnt revolve around you so u can either keep on crying about it or just accept it and move on.
It wouldnt be offensive, but rather pitiful for me, if i really made my woman buy a ring for her own self
Well. I don't know if you get me before, I only said I should be doing those only because I want to and not because it's expected of me
No no, what if she bought a ring for u
So you’re in a relationship and you do not want to marry them?
its either that or you do want to marry them
And if you do want to marry them then why dont u propose
stupid arguement
I'm taking about stuff associated with masculinity and femininity didn't you see that part bro
Generally, doesnt happen.
Im pretty sure she would definitely ask the guy before buying a ring for him because it doesnt seem smart to buy a ring for him without having a conversation about marriage with him. And if she does spark the conversation and you still let her buy a ring for you then idk man, not smth i would want personally but sure its your own life do wtvr u want
In my personal opinion, women have full right to propose to men. Gender equality. Men propose to women, so if a woman feels its the right time, whats stopping them?
But its not atupid when men propose directly before having a conversation of marriage with them?
Thats stupid. Its because of biology. And nobody on earth gets to pick what they want to be. A deer does not consent to being born as a deer and get killed by a lion just after.
Yeah,
My point here is what if the man was already planning on proposing to her? Her wasting her money on her own proposal would be a waste. Thats just how it is, accept it.
I dont get u man. If he was planning to propose but didnt, its her money wasted for propsoing first, why? I mean why is it so hard to accept that she proposed and gave u a ring and thats not money wasted or opportunity wasted or something
Men propose women and women propose men
Why isnt that equal
and trust me ur a woman so u wouldnt get it, but if i let my gf propose to me and buy me a ring nd stuff that would literally make anyone feel pathetic.
its the same energy as saying let ur wife go to work while u take care of the kids at home.
Lol! And u have no idea how pathetic this sounds. Ur wife going to work and u taking care of kids, there shouldn’t be anything wrong in tht
My point is,
Before she takes the initiative of a proposal, she should ask the guy beforehand. Because GENERALLY, a guy would not let a girl propose and hes going to get her the ring beforehand. So proposing to him while he had something planned up for the future is not really wise. Its their own life so obv do wtvr tf u want but i wouldnt want that.
well im not gonna argue with this haha
Do whatever feels good for you ig
No way people r still arguing about this
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And then “generality” is what we are trying to break by our discussion here
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Are you stupid.
Nvm leave it
Its pointless arguing with random ppl on the internet
Lol I feel the same. I understand u but dont agree with u
Well. You mentioned that why am I in a relationship if I don't want to marry them (ofc I want to marry them) but am I the only one that wants to get married in the relationship, she doesn't? She just waits to accept or reject? And bringing biology as fact for an event that doesn't have to do with biology is just not cool.
Well, I guess it's only men that wants to get married then if we follow your logic
Women are just reactive
And hold no agency of their own
They don't seek to be with their partner
If men don't initiate, women would never get married ig
Are you some kind of femboy or something???
Just a regular dude
I don't think so deadghost
Why do you say so
Biologically men are built to get someone a companion not the other way round
They chase not being the one chased
Are you a man?
Cause I don't get how you prove that that's a biological fact rather than a learned habit
Some dudes might not even want to chase, the whole chasing thing just seem idk. And also nothing is wrong being a guy being chased
After
Animals, plants same thing
Male Birds have colourful features so they can be accepted if they go after the female
Plants pollen grain goes to the female reproductive part of flower not the other way round
Pursing as a male isn't socially constructed in any way,it is biological
Yes
Oh. Okay, well every guy is different
Humans are complicated
For some events, it can be male driven
But not In all cases since we do have events of female driven agency too
