Why We Repeat Trauma in Relationships | FriendZone Discussio
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This FriendZone | Make Friends ⋅ Fun Chill Active Chat ⋅ VC Social Gaming ⋅ Memes ⋅ Nitro Emojis ⋅ Anime community discussion dives into the psychology of why we subconsciously repeat childhood trauma in adult relationships. Members explore how trauma alters brain patterns and the difficulty of breaking these cycles. It is a thought-provoking look at self-awareness and healing, highlighting the deep, meaningful conversations that happen within our active social server.
Childhood shapes our adulthood...
What we did not get when we were a child reflects now as we try to find that in relationships....
One who did not get enough attention falls in love with the person who does not give him/her attention- because they are familiar with working hard to get attention.
Similarly, one who was abandoned will actively look to work himself/herself to death to attract that one person who is avoiding him/her.....
Subconsciously we find a person who will complete us- in our trauma cycle...
Which is why relationships are always- you will find the best thing(the cure to your trauma) and the worst thing(your trauma repeating again)...
What do you guys think???
bro this is like so well written
Oh my!! Thank you so much man!!
But you know writing was not the point lol... what did you think about the topic of conversation?? 😆
oh about that i dont know im dumb
yeah..
bro everyone thinks im a guy...
Oh really??
Why bro??
umm i dont know..you tell me like you said 'thank you so much man'
i dont know they just think im a male i guess
Oh my, are you a female then??
yeah
Oh really,
My apologies then miss....
You see I identify genders with the pronouns written in description- you don't have any so I just assumed maybe you were a dude...
💯. I've read that trauma alters our brains, and we often cope by normalizing it. Like if a father were so controlling that it altered his wife's personality, their adult son might grow up believing that behavior is normal and continue the cycle with his own partner. It is deeply disturbing how much trauma affects our lives on a massive scale. Even with active unlearning, achieving stability takes a long time. It truly messes with our lives
nah its okay bro
Well yes
Yup, nicely said sir!!
Wonderful example on how trauma is normalized and then is passed down....into creating a painful cycle.
What one can do is understand about himself/herself before getting into the life of another person....
Well yesss...
I insist that i make it up to you for this mistake...more so because you have already faced this so many times..and I have done it to you one more time.(only if you desire my help, but most people just accept and say it's not a big deal lol)
Tell me if you require my help anytime and I shall gladly help miss.
This is an interesting take
Lots of people do go through trauma depending on how the situation goes
Even tho that one significant other can makes us happy
Somehow they’ll eventually end up switching up on us all of a sudden dud to cheating or something else rather but idk
Its weird to explain in a way
Trauma can never be gone entirely
Its something a lot of people will have
Does it make us feel determined, weak, strong, anything?
It depends on the individual
How they want to reshape their life and how they want to change their own destinies
Thats why everybody has their own stories to their own
Cause, it's not written in stone that they would hurt us
Or we don't just care ig
Yup, wonderful points...
It depends on individual more than anyone but the problem remains that most of the people are not aware of their trauma and then they inflict that pain on their partner and loved ones unknown to their own ignorance.....
This is scary....
Yup, true no one goes into relationships thinking about the painful side of the relationship haha
Anyways, never been in one so I'm positive that it ain't that bad
Can't know until you experience it I guess haha
I think it depends
I do hear that childhood does shape your adulthood, but I do think that you could also change
yes, you can repeat the cycle and what I mean by that is like date someone that abused you, but I also believe that you can change and figure out what you actually want in love
I think a lot of people don’t really realize that until they make that mistake and eventually if you keep on doing that mistake, you will figure it out. Some people are don’t want to change so I don’t blame them or they don’t know how to change.
or they’re too scared for change cause that’s all they know and that’s when a friend comes in or that’s when a counselor comes in and tries to help them do that I think the biggest thing that people that do do cycles need to realize that if they just reach out, there will be people that will help them
I think, especially for the people that are too scared to reach out or the people that are going to repeat that cycle, but you can break it you just have to figure out who you are and you have to reach out
that’s all tho :3
oh, and another thing that I wanna mention, is that people like this usually feel alone I think a lot of people are very difficult when it comes to it so just be open minded and if you are that friend help just be there for them support them try to help them through it. You might be saving a life.
Yup, you speak magnificently!!
Most people are afraid of change...
"Familiar pain is better than unfamiliar pain"
As you say, depends on individuals to change the cycle...
I agree about the friend and counseling thing too, they should help out people in such extreme cases...
Problem remains that most people would not admit if something is wrong with them!!!!
They just keep blaming everything lol- can't see how they bring misfortune to themselves....
It's like-
If everyone is having a problem with you maybe you could actually have a problem lol...
Sometime we do need to look inside ourself to make us better....
Wonderful insight from you!!!!
thank you!!!
My pleasure, well deserved!!
if you're rather bad at choosing, then yeah sure
Most people are bad at choosing lol..
hehehe
Depends on what you take from the person you can either be hurt about it or take from it and learn I think anyone that comes into your life will give you some sort of lesson though in their own way
Yup, summed up nicely...
Everyone who comes in our life gives away a lesson the thing is we ought to admit we dont know everything and be ready to learn something new hahaha....
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Because we're single
Yeah. If you weren't you would be worrying about someone's daughter
That's the point
Nver knew
How's life
Normal ig
Thank you for the compliment haha...
Have a good day ahead!!
Oh come on every other person who likes to think about themselves amd other is another psychologist haha...
What am I doing??
Just sharing a take that's all!! Haha..
Have a nice day ahead... since you disappear from the day( Mr Vengence).. haha
That it does haha, surely ignorance is a bliss...
But psychology is truly a power, one who understands it well does enjoy the results...
Psychology is a power is true but the consequences..
