What Makes You Lose Interest? | FriendZone Community Talk
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If he's always around girls
if she's not alive
If he lacks proper hygiene
Need me a man that has clean teeth and clean bed sheets
Ofc if he's my man why should he always be around other girls
Also nail, very important
Awww so nothing else? Like her behavior
Ohhhh my god yes trim and clean ur fucking nails
If I see a long toenail ur done
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What if he said, you should cut yours too
I get my frequent manicures💅💅 he can come with me
yea if she's with around other men too much
Another thing is if he’s following a bunch of like ig models or hot girl influencers that’s weird ass behavior
It’s more a respect thing than an insecurity thing imo
Yea but like you should not have long nails
what bout celebrities
That's valid
Agreed I need to type on a computer
It jus depends if its a respectable actress or one that’s jus known for being hot
I dated a guy who didn’t even have a public instagram and on his private account he only followed sports guys
That was fire
So will you be okay with your partner always being around the opposite gender
Again it’s a respect thing. Good guys don’t do that weird behavior
That's why it's my standard
What okay in your relationship, is not the same in mine
Love always attract a bit of jealousy
Being around girls wouldn’t bother me if I’d met them before and they’re actually platonic relationships bc I have several guy friends and my bfs trusted me
You're better, I can see
Versus going to the club and being around girls he isn’t that right with….. thaaats weird
Bro your reading comprehension concerns me
I’m explaining how it’s NOT a double standard💀
Read the sentence again pookie
My bf was cool with it bc he’d met them. And they were platonic
Trust is a major role to love
Bro got major trust issues
Without trust there’s nothing! But trust goes hand in hand with basic respect
That’s real asfuck
Also if my friends don’t fw him
Aside from simple preferences (like XYZ hair color and shit like that), if she's always chatting with others yet takes from 5-7 business days to reply. If she is always going out with friends on weekends but never wants to do something together. And if she makes her whole identity about a political thing, or religion, or ideology, or even worse about a tv show/movie.
I date someone with the intention to marry. So it’s a bigggg decision and I value the ppl closest to me’s input
Marriage is a family affair
Hmm I'd say at least second date quesrion yk? First date should be about just having a good time and some really small questions to know each others imi
Oh really? I should consider that's too
I don’t think alphas ever dated someone Hopi don’t waste ur breath girl
Understandable lol
Also sorry for this yall cus it might offend the discorders but if a guy is like obsessed with gaming…… like he’d rather game than hang out… it’s a nah
Ohhh so you don't like independent ladies? Also about the week I agree
Exactly. Like I get some time it happens and you're busy, I'm busy too. But if you're always on the phone while you're with me, I assume you are too without me, otherwise we have a problem
Fr, same always gaming is just too much
Can you tell me the exact point where I said that?
Cant never go wrong with gaming if both yall enjoy the same hobbies
That's how I understood
Read again then
In real relationships with real ass normal people that don’t have issues, there’s no games to be played like the waiting to respond/reach out game
I take long to reply but he shouldn't
I'm fine without them tbh, but it would be nice yes
Also if a guy doesn’t make his intentions/interest in me obvious, I’m good. I don’t need this whole “does he like me??” bit that happens way too often to ppl. That’s just high schooler behavior. If a man actually likes you, he’ll make it OBVIOUS and put in the effort
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I would but I prefer social norms of hetero dating? Aka man pursuing?
The chat is cooking up here
I mean, I agree but to the point where she is also making it clear that she is interested. Like I'll pursue once or twice, but if she is not reciprocating I'm leaving
Yes but sometimes they can be worried, you mind rejects them
Oh 1000% it’s a reciprocal relationship
Also if she acts like she is "the prize" both on first and other dates. Likeshe is the prize for me, but I am the prize for her too. Otherwise I'm just feeding a narcisist's ego
I personally cant hide if I like someone it’s pretty obvious. And I’m a VERY honest person
I wouldn't, because this is not how it supposed to be
Homie is loyal to her word 🤝
Thissss. Low quality women wanting high quality men for doing the bare minimum it’s fucking weird
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I'm not making the first move, until he does
You should be a bit patient
That's the point. Patience has a limit. If after five dates she hasn't made clear AT LEAST ONCE that she is also interested, I'm leaving. I have no time to waste
That's understandable, at the end you can just be friends
Hell no
Especially if she isn't making it clear
Lol
If she wants a wallet, she can go to walmart and buy one
So you will ask to split the bill
That's crazy
Gender equality until it's about paying the bill huh?
Why did you invite her?
She never asked
Why did she accept?
I never forced her
She was just sitting planning what to cook
You called her
Exactly
Atp it's either trolling or joking
I pay my own bill, my rent with the money I work for
I'm not in the mood for it
Paying the bill situation becomes rly minimal when ur in an actual good healthy relationship
It’s not a tit for tat
I don't think it's fair to generalize
God I wish it were easy to generalize 50% of the world population
Not really, remember you said, whoever idea was to go on the date should pay
I mean, if you want my opinion on how I would act IN MY SPECIFIC CASE, I'll pay the bill only if, when the bill comes, she offers to split it. If she doesn't even offer, she's just after free meal, and it's a goodbye from me
What if she invited me?
Yea, unless we're already dating
Didn't think of that
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She's going to pay, when you invite someone you should have money
Agree
Being broke while dating is roughhhhhhhh
For anyone
Adult dating is sm more fun though when you’ve both got your shit together
Don't tell me about it
Yea especially if they're playing to move in together
That's in movie who's going to pay your rent
I’ve been there when I dated in college I was with a guy who was BROKE. When he graduated his starting salary was 6 figures and our relationship honestly got so much better after that
Not bc im a gold digger though🤣🤣 because he was less stressed and already took care of me not in the financial way
Nice hottake to read
Ok listen fr
If he belives other girls
Over u
And if he hides something
Ect girls
It's in general, it doesn't have to be about your gf
Fr, money is important
Very inconsiderate that makes me so sas
Her pretends she cares
True
Financial independence have nothing to do with a man making his intentions oblivious ,I would have dated a life sized doll if I wanted a nonchalant unserious person
Exactly you're a door frame
You die single
As a honourable alpha(delulu) door frame
Get a sugar momma then
Or a sugar daddy
Except this....
Bro is inlove
I despise them
Have no respect for that
You have no respect for that but you want some else playing for as a man and leader....
Just tell her to pay for everything since you don't want her eating free food
Fr, it's a red flag
It's annoying
Like how
That doesn't seem like a problem to me
Not really, men still exist in case we're too much
Are you going to date someone dead
Like anything i do she acts interested when she's not
And he never failed to remind us
Who talked about only dating?
Did you first understand what he said
Ppl who don't seem to have a life outside their relationship
What's the topic?
What can make you lose interest in someone, and he replied if she's not alive" If she die, he'll lose interest in her"
Ohhh. I thought it was about the male's perspective
Understandable, but exemple you like football and she doesn't, she can pretend to be interested just to make you happy
Yah but i don't mean it in that way
Lol that's why I was shocked when you said that🤣 I see now, it's okay
Can you give a scenario
Thanks for correcting me
No, I said I want her to at least show that she's not there just for the free food
And it's funny you said "playing the role as a man and leader". I thought women were equal as men
For example am talking about games and she acts interested and i know she's acting interested and she knows that i know she's not interested but she still acts and not be honest with me but am good both ways i love my wife and i wouldn't be annoyed by such thing bc the fact she acts interested that shows how much she loves me so it's ok with me
Yea it can be 50/50 not totally wrong or right
Why should free food be your problem....
That thought would make a interested lady lose interest
Splitting bills shows lack of interest so how do you expect a lady to show interest when you are doing the opposite
Yeah, that kind of emotional dependence can really go too far and make things toxic
Because I'm not her servant. Pretending the man should pay the bill makes the woman only look like a gold digger whose only thing she can offer in the relationship is her body
You want me to pay the bill? Fine. But you'll better make sure to give me a damn good time worth the money
I'm not there to be the wallet
It's just 10euro not paying for her home stuff
Equal doesn't mean she should do a man's duty
She isn't meant to be the provider or leader in the relationship
Only on rare she should provide
Maybe she'll just take a 2euro drink
Find me a place where I can get a dinner for 10 euros and I'm moving there
Then what's the role of the woman in your opinion?
Come in my country, you will and very nice restaurants
It's your preference after all
You all saying gold digger are funny
Bro if she was a gold digger do you think she would accept your invitation
Gold digger looking for just a plate of food lmao
What happened to real stock, estate,cars, luxury stuff...
Btw a reasonable man would never complain about being scared if a lady doesn't split a bill
Some women really just go for just the meal fact but what about those who are interested but need a real man to provide and make his intentions clear
You will only Miss good women and be bitter if you follow that mindset
This
People want the benefits of roles but not the responsibilities that comes with it
What's funny is you telling me how a "real" man should behave, which is only a list of things he should to just because the woman exist. I'm bot going to worship the ground she walks on. I'm treating her like an equal, and that meams she has to also prove if she's worth spending money, time and attention on.
Exactly
asnwer this
Only on discord , but in real I didn't meet anyone who wants to split the bill for dinner
Over a plat of food?
It's not about the money or food
That's what he's talking about
It's about people telling us this is what a man should do
To care for you,love you ,give birth to your kids take care of them,be your companion etc
If you want to split bills the you will have to agree that you are not going to be the leader and won't be the one in charge in that relationship
While what a woman should do isn't clear Nd straight forward
Why don't you guys date your fellow men, it's easy since we do nothing just beg you to feed us and provide for us
Exactly. it's all about this. "A man must do this and that and behave like this". What if we men start saying how women should behave? That would be wrong, wouldn't it?
I think alot of woman complain about their roles
Like eg cooking
Ofc they do, men just go and get to any woman
Your just seeing this on your own perspective that's why
Ofc. We are the ones are held accountable
So basically I should pay for her to love me? Just that? So you're basically saying women should adhere to the standard role that WOMEN fought so hard to dismantle?
A woman can do just the same, so spare me the victimhood. Women are all but victims 90% of the time
Okay since that's our role why do you guys complain about yours, being a provider
For real, like as if we can't love or take care about the kids
I can do that if you have clear roles as mine
Then don't complain, if you complain we will too
So you do admit that the traditional role of a woman is to be the caretaker and take care of the house? Then why do feminists whine about it?
So it's 50/50
All I see it's women wanting something and then complain when they get it
Hmm. Woman started the movement first. About not liking traditional roles
All while being hypocrites
Exactly
You want XYZ, but when you get it you don't like it anymore?
If everyone has a clear list of roles Nd responsiblity there wouldn't be an issue
And what is taking care of the kids as a role. Can't we do that
Cooking is a role it's a life skill,it you can't cook the learn before coming to make your intention known to me
As I know feminists don't deny feminity
They just want opportunities
I can cook,but if I provide things for cooking. Well, isn't it okay for you to make the meal?
Such is fair
You guys have a problem w us working, and if we ask money since we don't work, you called us gold digger, it's crazy
Exactly
Of what?
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We have a problem with ladies working?
When ?
And why?
Ofc
That's why you complain about feminists
Not liking a woman's traditional roles
I have never since a woman complaining of these
If their men are reasonable providers and caring intentional men
No, as you can clearly see I have no problems with you women working. I have a problem with you working AND NOT WANTING TO CONTRIBUTE to the relationship
Always a men's fault
Right, you never see. Yet people make movements on it
The moment science will find a way to have children without having a woman getting pr*gnant, women will suddenly find themselves very very very lonely
I see, ofc that's a problem if she doesn't contribute, because the money is for us a family
Ofc. We both work. If it's the kids,men do take care of the kids in our own ways. Like education and all that
In the traditional role you're talking about are you including working?
Only if you want that
Exactly. So on a date, if she works and doesn't even offer to pay her part of the meal, I, like most men too, will lose all interest in her because she is not worth the time and effort
😭🤣not just for a date, same if he doesn't offer to pay I'll just blocked him, it's a waste of time
All women have different standards and choice date someone you are compatible with
If you want fully modern then go fully modern don't be a joke by expecting her to do those roles and still provide and also respect you as the leader of the home
For real, it's still about them being the price. We have to get their interest. So it's not about two people trying to be interested in each other. It's one person striving before the other gets interested
Your preference. But if you don't at least offer to pay for your own part, I doubt there would be any second date (though I wish you the best of luck for it)
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Yes because of men like you
Your types are funny to be rl
Pathetic....
Yeah, as I said before, she's not the only prize. I'm the prize for her, and she is the prize for me. So she better show interest too and that she does her part too yk
Same, before even going on the date he should tell me, if he can pay for his own food, if not we're not going
And because of women tbat think like you do, we just stop dating and move on. After all, we're not the ones that stop having children after a while
See? So it's not that crazy to ask for her to AT LEAST OFFER to pay for her own food
For real, it probably only works well for a guy if the price is interested before him since guys don't exactly have high expectations
After all, it's a first date. It's meant only to know each other
Try coffee dates
They can't complain about not being able to pay for that
Same for men. Don't expect us to worship the ground you walk on. Women are just women, they're nothing special
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Yea, that's why it's not good to go for broky, isn't it?
If you are caring you won't see cooking for your wife as a thing of stress
So this is invalid...
Not my problem if they want to date
If she cares, she won't see cooking for her husband as a thing of stress
No I'm going to a very expensive restaurant that ik well I can afford if he can't, I'm blocking him
I like it when I provide and she cooks or she provide Nd enjoy my meal
Huh. So you have pref on the type of date even though you are not handling the expenses
That's cray cray
Didn't you read?
I'm blocking him, I can afford, that's all you said. So why block if if you can afford Nd choose a place. It's like me blocking a lady because I choose an expensive place for our date,paid for it and since she couldn't afford for it,I blocked her
That's just it
Some logics just doesn't make sense
Well atp you should have realized that women's ego is the main thing that can make a men uninterested in them. And double standards too.
If you have expectations for me as a guy, alright I will accept it, in as much as you accept the expectations I have for you
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For real.
Are you shallow to know women are different...
So they can have different standards
Who wants fully traditional can go for it,who wants fully modern can go for it and who wants partially traditional and modern can go for it
Meet someone who is compatible with you
And don't go about crying like an immature child that women are gold digger for just a meal f**king broke man's mentality
when you all are the real digger
Face digger,youth digger,baby carer digger etc
Yh and just focusing on every small thing in a relationship makes it become too stressful since both sides struggle to understand what they exactly should do to make themselves compatible with eachother
What's wrong with you providing something for a meal for example Nd she makes it. If she should provide for that meal, wouldn't you cook?
Are you shallow to know women are different...
So they can have different standards
Who wants fully traditional can go for it,who wants fully modern can go for it and who wants partially traditional and modern can go for it
Meet someone who is compatible with you
And don't go about crying like an immature child that women are gold digger for just a meal f**king broke man's mentality
when you all are the real digger
Face digger,youth digger,baby carer digger etc
I could have made the same argument for you luxe. You want traditional men, go for it instead of being a crybaby ignorant misandrist
Because he can't pay, isn't what you all about if she can't pay I'm not going out w her, so don't change now
That only sounds like a gold digger that is interested in having a living wallet instead of a husband
That's just sad
I almost feel sorry for you
ALMOST
I agree with your logic
Because women are not all the same,they aren't robot omy....🤦
Right,i am now considered to be shallow for making a point. Anyways, that's is sliding. We also have differences as men, we have different standards too
No, I'm like if we all pay for ourselves Nd enjoy ourselves. The. It's a two people thing and no one has an issue
Did I make mention of robots?
What can make u lose interest in someone, as the title says
It wasn't like that at the beginning, you all said she should pay for her food, and if she can't no need for second date, I said mine too
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Fun fact men experience more loneliness that women who are single
Marriage is the only way most men escape that
Even if that technology comes
If you can afford someone getting a free meal do you think you can afford it
Because men are not all the same, they aren't wallet omg🤦♂️
My point is what's wrong with paying for yourself.
Fun fact, it's women who have higher diforce rates between marriages of the same s*x.
Then what's wrong w him paying for himself
All guys can pay for themselves
Besides, "loneliness" can easely being overcome with friends and/or companions. Women are not the only solution for that (and ofc it goes both ways)
Are you sure?
Which I agreed with
Just gaming and cars do the trick
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I can pay for myself
So as a guy yes for me
I can too, I'm a lady and I do it
Alright. So why want him to pay for you then?
If it's a date
You both spend exact same amount of time
So that doesn't work on me, I'm not waiting for a guy to humiliate me because he paid a 10 euro Burger for me
Same contribution to making it an interesting date
When did I say I can't afford?
Oh, so what do you want in a first date then
For real
What do you really want
I said if he can't afford for himself, I don't want him
Do you understand now
Take your time to read
Yes.
So you are okay with both paying for themselves right?
What you don't understand is that it's nor about affording the meal or not. It's about making a good impression on the other. You say a guy should offer to pay for the meal to make a good impression. Fine, I agree with that logic. I say a woman should offer to pay AT LEAST for her part of the meal to make a good impression too. You see my point?
Yeah. Cause if I am working to get your interest, how are you trying to get mine
It's pretty much easier to just straight up say you are not interested in the person than have them try to get your interest
Contribution in such things as dates or relationship should be balanced and equal
I think more importantly they should be reciprocated
Alright
You can use that term
I'm pretty sure lady in blue blocked me😂
Don't worry
It's just cooling off period
Oh yeah I hate that
They should disable it for hot takes
Too many banned words for no reason
Oh
And there is no list of such words
So you only discover through trial Nd mistake
I was raised well dw, I can always afford to pay. As I said irl I haven't met any guy who asked me to pay for my own food. Even if I offered to pay, they still ended up paying for everything and those are my male friends, idk maybe because it's a friendly date. Secondly, as I said earlier, if I don't have money I won't go because I don't want to be humiliated because I can't afford a 10euro burger. Also, I don't want any guy to control me with his money. Lastly, I don't like taking gifts from men, especially if we're not officially together, because I don't want him to ask me something I can't give him and I'll be too ashamed to say no because he'll always give me gifts or money. And we had this conversation before, I said I don't have a problem with splitting the bill. Hope you understand
Exactly
This is for me. But the other argument I have was based on general point of view not just about me
I didn't, it's lunch time
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Yeah I see
Did I tell you I have period by any chance
Got it
Oh. I don't mean period period
I meant a period of time
Well I was "raised well" too. But then I also saw that reality is quite different from expectations. So that's why I changed and why I rarely treat women as if they were something "special" that deserves all my attention and interest
Same I'm afraid of men, the last time I asked a guy for help he asked me to hug him, I should just help myself
I guess some guys see hugging as a fect
Same men I just weird
Hmm. I guess it's probably done depending on the person Nd situation
I find hugs a bit uncomfortable
Why some of you can't do anything for free
Even those who pay for food, they don't do it for free, still they'll asked the girl for something back
Hmm.
I don't know
Why do you want it for free?
Can't you help without expecting something in return
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It's like investing in something Nd not expecting a return
Sounds like a lose more than a win in a way
Some people can, but that's mostly with family
I'll tell you what happened with me then you'll see if it worth always expecting something in return
Sure
I'm listening
That's in the past. It's history now
Waited for that line for so long lol
One who is special to have
That's the meaning
I'm the "one"
she is still texting
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Your name is pronounce in my head like Empty wolf
Does MT means something?
Damn
This is not true women can offer alot
I'm scared of cats. There was a cat at the entrance of my house, and I couldn't go in. I stood there for like 20 minutes. Then a guy was passing by and I asked him to help me go inside because I was scared of the cat. Then he said That's cute, you're scared of a cat. I like girls like this so I can protect them. He said, Okay, but can you hug me and give me your number? I'd like to know you more. I said no, I can't hug someone I don't know. He said fine, at least give me your number. I said no, give me yours. He said fine, then he took the cat and I go inside. I deleted it after going in. Was it worth him waiting for something in return after helping?
Nope
That dude is more scary then the cat
Lol it's just now I realized it was a t, I always read as Mr🤣
Not supporting that
Oh
It's insane
Damn first time i agree with u
For real, it's definitely awkward. Not exactly the best opportunity to ask for your number or a hug
The highest is maybe your name
Dream on
Like?
Fr with all the perverts I have seen only God knows why I never developed hate towards men
If a woman loves you, yk the memories u spend together like u go on dates in nature ect, and talk laugh together and like help eachother when times are low and ye alot
Good times
And both can split the pays
Its normal if u live together
Nah. That guy is not a gud pervert. Gud ones admire not try to force themselves
Lol you are a fool
I can have that outside dates too
Was the only way I could go in my house
Well the point is both is being good to eachother
Loyal and stuff
Then its fine
Wdym
Understanding eachother
Asking for help now is using?
Ye exactly
I admire ladies (if that's perverted). But I don't go about looking for touches. Totally not cool
It's normal, as long as it's respectful
Exactly
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She wasn't expecting that
I'm just glad that this whole argument didn't turn into insulting or calling names finally something not toxic
So if someone asked you to help them you'll go and tell them to give their number or hug you before you help them?
Yeah, most arguments just need to come down to the fact that we all have different ideologies. I'm happy it went well too
Oh right
If you think so then good for you
She could have waited for the next person?
If someone is putting up a condition for an action you need but you are not cool with the condition. A no would suffice
That's what you are saying right
Do u think so too
or
You reply with bad stuff
Yea he put a condition bro can't you read
You pretend to act so innocent
So its whatever
Belive ur bad mind
He's capable of doing such thing, it like those guy who said I buy you a phone now you have to sleep with me
Bc you are a woman hater
I get your point. He was just saying you could have refused his help since it came with a condition
Your problem
It's the same thing w those kind of ppl
Hmm. We are repeating ourselves
My question is why didn't you say no
Lol I'm too good for that, but you shouldn't cross the line
I told you I have been standing there nobody passing, it's just a phone number and I said no to the hug, plus I didn't give my number but took his
He doesn't hate women, you do have sis Nd mom right
These types of questions always seem to lead to man Vs woman fight, we shouldn't focus on small things so much cos it just wastes energy
He's just ragebating so I'll just ignore him
Not all are men here cough
Some are boys
Annoying ahh boys
Alright. I get it. There was no one else. But this dude was trying to help with a condition. And you ain't cool with the condition. So you no saying no is kinda using him the same way he wanted to use that opportunity to get your contact
That's what ppl do online, many love to ragebait others
So in the end it was a win win for everyone
Ok men/ boys Vs women/girls, male Vs female
Think what?
Hmm. Gender talks again?
Think its worth to split Bills if woman is kind to u and u both are to eachother
Yk you'd get a nicer response from me if you didn't act like a rude annoying entitled arrogant guy
Ye
Hmm. So she brings kindness? And he doesn't?
Always gender talks with these types of questions
I said both
Dont twist my words
As I said, if she AT LEAST doesn't offer to pay her share, I will split. Besides, if I had a great time I should pay? Then since she had a great time too she should pay for me then
I know. So if both bring it. Then both can split right
Ye sure its split its good
Yeah. It doesn't always end well,yet the gud thing is that we can't get rid of each other
Ye they can split
Did you read everything
Well I don't remember what happened at the start but all I see is two sides fighting over little pointless things when relationships shouldn't be this deep
Relationships involve companionship and together or wtvr, it's not a business contract
Thats why ur a boy
Yes, I read that like thrice.
Cool. We have concluded
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You just choose the part you want then talk about it, I'm tired repeating myself believe whatever you guys want
Ye
Whenever they're bored
True, for anything tbh
Both should split to be fair, its not fair only one pays for stuff
I know what you said,I didn't choose any part of it. I treated it as a whole . In which I asked why you didn't say no to his help in which you said there was no one else there. That's why you accepted the help even with his condition
I don't want continue this one.
They work as a team not other way around
Fine,I will drop it
No if both live together and stuff they should split the Bills
One should not go alone
Hmm. I think If you want to switch a role you would have to take on one of hers probably
This is not even the topic of the take
This about being a team and helping eachother not being ego
Nobody deserve to pay all Bills by them self
So you vote for equality?
Yes i vote for equality
Bro
Then you wont get a woman
Simple as that
What would you be doing then
If she handles the bill,you would be doing something at least
Fr
Baby sitting?
Meals?
Laundry?
So relationships r just a business contract in disguise with the added use of companionship and maybe kids💔
Im not saying that but i vote it to be fair
Nah. Most ladies work now
Oh. Could. So a role swap then
Huh
Yeah. It's a role swap then it shouldn't be hard
This sounds like a contract thing lol
Isnt that also count as splitting or
Oh. It's his pref
Like if swapped
Idk
Maybe
You can swap roles or split the responsibility of the role
I mean if you marry someone it is kind off like that cause people have papers or what so ever in some wedds
Idk why people have so much
Yeah. It's was a contract back then
I see then its okay
But now we have divorce and all that
But if you divorce u will have maybe some loses too
Depends on marriage
Not with the laws we have currently
Ig
I mean unless u think the benefits out way everything else then that makes sense but it looks so pointless to stress and complain abt things like who pays and shit
That's why ppl don't get married nowadays, they just date for like 10y then break up
Child support and all that
Ye but if people are against u and bring up a lawyer
And tries to make them scared
To get more money
From divorce
Its not good
Exactly, even dating is kinda an iffy thing cos of that
Child supporters aint always kind
I don't think it works that way,unless you do stuffs like put your assets in your mum's name
Exactly, I feel like who ever is with the kid for the time handles the bill for that time
And it should be a balanced Nd equal time
Which also allow for visitation
Sometimes it does if the person is having to much ppl or whatever
They deem someone else guilty for lying ect
Well idk how its now
But years back it was hell
Its fine then
Yeah. It's complicated
Ye
Neither imo, I feel like they usually break up afterwards
But ain't not divorcing if I get married
If the love is strong they wont
Depends each person
Valid
If you based a life contract on love alone, it's gonna crash
Trust me, love runs out somedays
It looks like a waste of time for both sides and a waste of energy
Although it comes back after a while maybe
True ig
Maybe
What if I want to be in a relationship because I want to, Nd not because of love?
Would it crash because it's an intentional choice?
I mean it would be bad tbh
And it would not work out
Business work would with proper rules Nd roles
It's worth a try
Even love based relationship crash. So I rather have a working contract Nd love a by product of that contract
Well if you have a co worker and stuff relationship not in a love relatiosnhip it is fine as long u dont be in any
Apparently our parents have done this game before. So it shouldn't be all that hard
Relationship love
If u dont have feels
Oh I don't mean it as work. I meant a relationship with rules Nd roles, it's clear and not depending on the unwritten social script
Relationship
Meh. Not yet
Life is too busy for now
I'm just cool with friendship
Lol
Nope
I did have an excuse though
I was like I am gonna wait till uni
But just a few years later, I started adulting and starting questioning why people do relationships Nd why they factor it on love
What's romance supposed to be like and who defines that
Did it work out?
I'm sure it was a gud time at least
So did you figure out why it didn't
Last
We kinda have to learn from mistakes in a way
I used to get called that💔
Hmm, does nonchalant, cared less Nd not putting effort = not loving her?
Not by choice
That's sad
If I had a girl, I would need to know what she wants Nd she also need to know what I can give
Oh.
So why do you date then
For the labels?
For the something called feelings( although I don't really know how they work)?
For benefits of it ?
Idk
I will give it a try at 25
For me it sounded like I was disconnected and distant from others
Okay i see
Do u not understand love or smth, genuine question
I don't. I understand care Nd responsiblity. Since I practice that with fam. If that's love?
Idk if that's the main definition of it, but yh I also don't rly get it lol
Besides wanting something to work out. You didn't ask what you wanted in a relationship?
I know when I am angry or sad Nd others but love is different. The people who had said they love me, I do ask them but they say they don't know
So that means you're basically an introvert
I see. So what's you gonna do if you find a girl you like
Do you have expectations?
Imo I think it comes in diff forms but the main one ppl talk abt is the romance type which I don't get
Yeah. Cause no one defined what romance it
Songs sold out the idea
Movies emphasis on what it should look like
Everyone has to figure out what it means for them
Rather than relying on a social script
Yh the idea of it is too abstract tbh
Oh. So that's a pref
So what would you want romance to be like for you
Ngl it's not smth I'd want, I don't like the idea of it
Which country
Thanks, what if mine is not based on love but rules Nd roles that are clear Nd love is just a by role
That makes sense. Before dating I think everyone should like not settle down but at least have a good idea of what they want to do with their lives
My idea of romance
True true
Hmm... Points of view ig🤷♂️ Though it would be nice to see it that way
I don't get the idea of this force you speak of . Since I don't feel it. The best I know is care Nd responsiblity
No butterflies
No losing of my mind
(would be back,need to shower)
I'm not a God
I'm human
God's love isn't romantic btw
I believe the love humans feel is different from the one He shows to us
I'm old Testament
It's not a romantic love
I get the idea of love as care Nd responsiblity
If that's isn't love,then I don't know what love is
Yeah, eg. My mum doesn't say I love you or spend all her day talking to me and etc. but yet she does what she does Nd I know she loves me by her actions
I do not "love thy neighbour". If said neighbour wants to live with me, it's my way or the highway. Otherwise I keep myself away from people I do not like.
She doesn't need to post it to the world
The right people is a big gamble in a world filled with numerous people
I rather find a person
Even the right person has issues, cause we all are humans. We have got our messy days and all that. So there is a right person, you sticking up with the choice you made , that's probably what makes up the whole idea of this is the "one"
About that. Well, I wouldn't call it a relationship since there were no labels but I had been in something closer to the idea of what people call a relationship
Because "thy neighbour" doesn't care about me, so I don't care about him back. "Thy neighbour" allows bad people to live between us. "Thy neighbour" lies too often.
I'm not Jesus. I don't love my enemies.
And I certainly do not wish the best for them.
As I said, I'm not Jesus. And I'm old testament. I definitely hate the sinner
I'm not asking you to accept this as your way of life anyway
😅
Yeah. I agree with that
But the idea of the "one" or "right person " doesn't sit well with me
I work with logic
I am saying, choosing the person is what makes them the right person or the so call one. If there was something like a destined right person, that's gonna take more than love ,it would need miracle to find such a person in a world filled with people. She isn't the one or the right person,but she can be. Emphasis on "can"
Never said I was aiming that high
So what's so special or what is this you can't find it other girls
You're def the lovely Christian that goes to Heaven I see
Surely in a world filled with millions, at least 10 girls should have this special thing
You keep going through this you find miss right?
You can also never be certain of going to Hell
Nah. I think it's a delusional to say there is a right person or the one. I believe what makes a person is right, is your choice and what they can be
Yeah
Yeah. Let's give it time. By 25 I will let you know of my results
Cooking can be done by anyone
Invalid as usual..
So again, what are the famous "roles" that women should have in a relationship in your opinion?
That is fair if the man can't act like a man and do a bare minimum in first date then that is the best thing to do
Hope if she provides you will carry the pregnancy and care for the kids
Pathetic...
Literally women are the ones not interested in men and are fine about it
Most men say they are not interested in women are either bitter grown male child or gay
So what are your expectations to feed you cus you are unreasonable and handicapped right
Apart from providing which you are avoiding what else can you do in a relationship or marriage....?
Most women who say they are not interested in men are either lesbians or bitter Karens with lots of cats or straight up misandrists
you still have to explain to me what are the "roles" of a woman in a relationship, since ACCORDING TO YOU a man must be the provider and leader of the house
Misandrist....?
Dumbo
Fine I go for that since I want it,so this is about you now
So what exactly do you want....?
A woman that would be both modern and tradition 🤡
No. I want a grown adult that can take care of herself and stays with me because she loves me, not because I make her life easier with my money.
Now what do YOU want?
You still haven't told me what "roles" should the women have in the relationships
Like I said if you don't want to provide fine ,men are different just like women
Everyone with their standards
then go for a partner who would want that and don't expect her submission or her to give birth ,clean the home etc
You can't expect a modern woman for that....
Get some one who believes in that and stop wimping
Women are gold digger when you just a man looking for another mother and a wife in one person
That is in relevant here
We are talking about hetero relationship not homo relationship....🤦
A wife can be a mother without being submissive to her husband (which is wrong cuz relationships are about being equal)
Yeah but I thought you were starting the bs contest, so I didn't want to let you play alone
I see you are already bitter
Keep up with it
You get even more bitter 😅
Raised well indeed
Well I see you're already ignorant, but there's always room for improvement👍
Such a big compliment from someone like you
Are you so dumb to know women do that for protection
If you want equality to the fullest
Then be ready to raise the kids and she would be the head of the woman
Like how you are coming out of the closet atleast you are truthful than the others
U think men don't rise their kids?
Do your mum pay the Bill in your home....?
If she doesn't as done in a normal family
You are indirectly calling her a bitch you know that right....
Pathetic
Never end
You guys are changing my take
😂
I never said I am avoiding my roles as a guy, I am just saying. Every lady has expectations of a guy,in which we can do. We should also have expectations of them that they should also care out. In which I gave a simple example. Like she expects me to provide,is it wrong for me to expect her to cook?
you still have to tell me the roles of a woman in a relationship according to you
Why do you keep avoiding this question?
I only see you being s*xist and hateful without supporting anything you say
Hmm I think you got timed out
I hate the bots
With this mentality....?
Omy....
Good luck trying
Why do you acmvoid that question?
The real question should be why do you need a woman in your life
💯
Answer
I don't NEED one. I want one to be my wife, my supporter and my companion in life, so that it makes existance more bearable. Simple as that
But I can do well without one anyway
It's just a bonus thing yk
Like why would you need a man in your life?
Said that earlier read the previous chat if you need the answer again
No, you just said some blavbering nonsense. I want you to tell me right here what do you think are both the man's and the woman's role in a relationship
Take all the time you want
But make a list or whatever you want explaining what should be the roles of both the men and the woman
A free wife,free baby carrier,free house help etc
Then what would you do
Sit in front of her all day while you face pay the bills and everything right....?
You want love but not the responsibilities that comes with it
This would be great if you don't expect any traditional role from her but if you expect her respect, submission,kids etc then 🤡
Because I want somebody who can understand my feelings as much as I can understand his, and do stuff together, and share memories
Except carrying the baby and giving birth to it, the man can do the rest with no problem, which I would So your point makes no sense
Everyone needs someone, but we all have different reason and benefit, some can be physical, financial or emotional benefits
As I said, I do not expect submission form her at all. You're the s*xist one here that said the man should be the leader of the house
Nah...
That isn't how fully modern works
If you want fully modern then expect fully modern
Who is going to waste her beauty,youth,time, energy for you while you seat down doing nothing...
Same except getting her pregnant a woman can do the rest
Well that is nice
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💯
Exactly, so I don't see point in saying those are a "woman's roles"
Other than trying to justify their s*xism
Nah...
That isn't how fully modern works
If you want fully modern then expect fully modern
Who is going to waste her beauty,youth,time, energy for you while you seat down doing nothing...
I don't fully agree tbh. I've met men and women that are completely fine never being in a relationship cuz they already have friends.
That was hetero statistics not homo so still doesn't make any sense
So they never fallen in love
If having common sense means ignorance to you
I am proud to be ignorant
Like I said she can cook
And I also made myself clear that cooking is a basic skill and all should know how to do it
I won't get marry to a dude who would expect me to cook in my sick bed or after coming from work late while he is busy doing nothing at home
That's the thing. You see the world black and white. It's really sad ngl
Idk about them. I did, and I can tell you it's not that good tbh, I wouldn't do it again. But I hope it's good for you
Read past messages
Don't expect me to type that again
Sure, feel free to lie to yourself as much as you want
Which is why I offer. The solution. Provide Nd the dude cooks. It's not like we don't get tired or sick too
Sure sure
Or we don't work
I expected that ngl
I don't get why we are Alwar the bad guys
Don't you know? We're robots that are not allowed to complain
We must only obey
Do this do that be this be that
But don't ask something back, or they stop loving you
Yeah. Ofc. We are robots
And then women wonder why men don't open to them
Lol unironically we technically are. We have an exosckeleton (bones), fuel (blood and all that) and a main computer (the brain)🤣 🤣
Yeah. I guess that why we are strong Nd logical
Definitely lacking the ablity to be tired or fall sick
It doesn't apply to everyone unfortunately
🤣 🤣
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Great and this is fair
Then stay single because if you need a wife and mother for your kids with this mentality you will only get more bitter and piti ful
Such a big compliment from someone like you
Well, I don't know. I mean men do complain of ladies. Same as ladies complaining of men. Her opinion was like she can cook but not when she is sick to tired maybe from work. I get it. I mean, on those kind of days, we would just have to exchange our roles, it's not like as if we are not also tired from work. I'm pretty sure that why the whole providing thing came up so that the lady can be fit to play her role while we provide
I don't understand
Especially since I'm not the s*xist one that thinks women should submit to their husbands like you do
U keep using bitter Nd pitiful because it doesn't go your way
What is it that you don't understand? Maybe I made a typo or something.
Great then don't expect ba woman to do that when you can't provide
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I don't understand what you're talking about, that you did
He is only a real man if it favours the lady I guess
Great so then don't expect a man to provide when you have that attitude
Wha
Yeah. It's quite simple
Well you said they never fell in love. And I said I don't know if they did. But I did, and it wasn't that great of an experience. But I hope it'll be a good experience if it happens to you
🤣 💯
She tells me what she wants me to be doing. I also say what she should be doing
And I don't remember disagreeing with this that a woman shouldn't cook if her man provides so...?
Hmm.okay. so what exactly was your point. If she is sick or tired?
She shouldn't do it?
No one said complaining is bad are you trying to play victim here...
If you can't provide then don't expect a woman to be modern and tradition that just the simple thing here
Even though it's her role
Awwohh so sorry yea but I hope for the best too
Which is totally fine by me, sick Nd tired doesn't mean you can't handle a little provision while I make the meal
You said you want to be single,that suit you better than getting even more bitter
I provide FOR MYSELF. I expect her to do the same. Then we both provide for the house and the kids. Not just one privides and the other does the rest
He is going to do well in his relationship
You guys are still young, you won't understand relationship stuff
Coming from you it's a high compliment, thanks
Well, we have to talk it out now
How old are you?
So if your wife is sick or tired you will expect her to cook when as a reasonable man you can do it to ease her the stress
Pathetic
Just as I expected from a boy like you
Hmm. I expect her to take on one of my role later as I did for her
Sick
😅no you guys won't be afraid of my if you know my age just assume anything it's okay
Yea but still you won't really understand it
Well. I can't get into something I don't understand. Hence why I am talking it out and knowing where everyone stand
It's quite simple
She makes a list of all her roles she plans on doing while I make a list too
Let it be clear
Nuh uh. You can't play the card of "you all are young" and then hide the age🤣
So if your wife is sick or tired you will expect her to cook when as a reasonable man you can do it to ease her the stress
Pathetic
Just as I expected from a boy like you
Yeah
It's an advise cause I am already feeling your bitterness 😅😭
Which kids....?
The ones that would fall from the sky right...?
And the ones that fairies would raised right....?
Pathetic...
Just just provide my point that you are a grown male child
You want love but you don't even have her interest at heart 🤡🤡🤡
So any help you do must be compensated and you are her husband right....?
Uh? I got the ping and there's no message...
Ghost ping
Happens
I don't mind but I'm an adult
That's I can say
18?
I see
What was your lidt
It's a secret🤐
I'll find it out dw
Prob the range of 24-28 but looking younger
Omg no way
I'm taking a guess and saying 25
Prob going 26 this year too?
Nah you'll never find out
I already have my answer
Well,I can provide it.
Sure sure
You acted shocked with the age range so it means it's between them. Then you disappeared when I said 25, prob to look if you had ever sent a message in the server with your age. Now you deny it. If it's not 25, it's still really close lol🤣 🤣
So you can't help your wife without compensation
And you say you love her
I like how you are going....
Keep it up
Is there anything wrong with compensation?
I don't really mind the age you gave because it's none of them, I'm shocked because you went were I wouldn't expect, even irl nobody has given me that age lol
I see you're trying to make me admit it
A reasonable person can answer that
I won't say the answer think for yourself
u always seem to make the hottest takes lol
Alright,I guess we all have it our ways
awwww I'm blushing
To hot fr
Most of the arguments come under yours
Hahaha
I enjoy it tho, do you?
Smart🤣
Ofc when I'm not one of the main arguers (just mentioning stuff here and there) and it doesn't dissolve into fighting lol
Gender Equality is no joke on here huh
Loll
Fr
Even then it's interesting to see diff points
This isn't about gender equality tho
It is just about acting right....?
Idk like why cant both sides get their acts together
like work like a team of 2 or something
Drmmm
Erm
For you should a woman do both traditional role and modern role while the man does nothing
I'm a smart lady
why not just make it equal in general make it all balanced out type of thing
Exactly
Most men want to sit doing nothing
But expect a modern wife and a traditional wife
Yea, still good, you're contributing
most men huh
So what makes it equal to you
like i said we work as a team of 2 nothing needed to be explained
Yes and not all
Do you want a modern or traditional husband or both
What team
What answer
Should a woman do the modern role and traditional role like giving birth , caring for kids, caring for the home etc
While the man just sit doing nothing
man dont do nothing at all we help too
the yapping is crazy over here ngl
It's always crazy
HA fax
For this economy
If I work I will contribute
So it's fair
I won't do both roles for a man to sit like an handicapped while expecting me to give birth to everything ,then provide
we might as well just talk it out through a podcast JK
I agree on that, it's too hard for one person to do everything
What type of help if you don't provide for your family....?
There was this man that was complaining because his gf of 12y left him w kids, he was saying he didn't have money to marry her
Sit there doing nothing
Or maybe just give your sp* rm to create a child that you will still expect her to train huh...?
Cause from this that is where you all are going
Indeed lmao
How much to get married if you can't do a big wedding why not go for a small one....?
This isn't adding up
He said he didn't have money to do that
But they have kids
3 kids
So what have the kids been eating sand...?
A small wedding won't cost must
There is more to it
Either for his side or from her side
Paying the bride price, it can't be from her
Always the unserious men after losing the women they become bitter
Glad she let the kids with him now no one would label her single mum(cus that is the best insult they can come up with)
Want love but want to act nonchalant
Pathetic....
I know I actually said it that way so those crying I am being se* xist can think of the person at fault
She did worse, she got married to someone else
Fr, also if he's never ready for commitment but always claim to have feeling for you
Fr that's so annoying
inconsistency. when their words don’t match their actions, interest dies fast.
If you are sensible you should know
Does that comment show that I care or have a problem with it
What matters is you are honest and came out of the closet unlike the rest
She doesn't right....?
So what was your comment earlier women who don't want to pay bills are broke bitch
Dude your mum is also a woman and she isn't exempted so you know
There are women fine with paying bills fair and they are some not fine with that
Calling them gold digger for asking for the minimum is pathetic
And only expected from a clown
Yea and you feel bad to interest in someone else because that's person confessed his feelings but he's not ready for commitment
Yea and when conversations start feeling like you're forcing it
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It's good that agree
Clanker
Stupidity
Yes when it feels like I’m forcing the conversation or myself on the relationship
??
What?
Why?
Why what?
You pinged me first
I forgot the reason
I want these 12 minutes of my life back
Sorry
I'll tell you bed story so you won't be scared to sleep okay
You're not my mother💀
And I'm 20 fcking years old🤣
Like I don't even know what sleep is anymore🤣 🤣
Nah, you're not, you're still a child
For you maybe grandma
Oh really? When was the last time you sleep
Uh...
Next question
It's okay kiddo I can understand
💀
Hmmm I see secret! If you have insomnia listen to storytelling
It helps
I have something worse
It's called cats
I first time hearing this, what's that
The thing you're so scared about
So you don't like to sleep?
Why are you talking with me?
Oh you mean cat? Meow meow?
Yes
I have two
So
No sleep
Because... I want to sleep chating at night can make me sleep sometimes
Omg that's so bad? Why don't you donate them
Who tf donates their pets away?
It's like giving your child away just because you havem't teached them to sleep at night💀 Cats, like all animals, just need to be trained a little
Oh they're yours, I thought they're just random cats
Wait on need to sleep you or them
Oh so this is all about you needing someone to "use" so you can sleep faster. Why pinging me in a public chat then?
They crying scared me yea, if I cat cry in the middle of night I won't be able to sleep again
Yk what, you gave me a bright idea rn
Why didn't I think of blocking you before?
Fr idk really but are you angry?
Here ppl treat cats and dogs w a lot care
No, I just had a goid time actually. But I don't like this all interactions that started out of nowhere, so there must be something behind it
There was a time one enter in the class, my teacher was sooo scared she started turning red and scream
Don't overthink, it's night, this word why or how is not good at night
As if I'd ever trust a woman telling me "not to worry about it"
I'm out
Aren't we ppl?
That has nothing to do with what I said, congrats
Hmm
Brooo
I swear
I am very normal
I can definetly follow whatever is said here
(lies)
Weird
u should try a dark profile sometimes
No way emo
Dosent fit me at all
I would look like a corpse
Hmm. I ain't no emo
Nah, why attribute dark to things like that
If i went with dark pfp stuff
Id be like hella emo
So sad
I see
I am like that
My bio is so boring
And light is attributed to something good?
For my eyes
Add some disturbing text
Pfp is goated
No way
Or a list of random names
Listing u
Jk
Look nice
Nah. I rather be in Light's notebook
Na bet not
That book scary asf
I thought the girl and him would end as couple
The story was sad ngl
You can use it as a dairy
Yeah for real,in the end he became what he was killing
Alright then sir
Fr
Relief?
Why, truth hurts?
Good. Find a better one.
That's much hurt? Are you okay
That's why I never confused
4 billion women in the world. You can def find better
Wow, did you at least get to say what you felt?
Huh. So just closure without expression?
Red flag, maybe she's healing you came the wrong time bro
U'll be able to find someone else if u try
It's not about finding better
Hmm. So you didn't get to hear it from her?
It's okay if someone doesn't like you back doesn't make them less good
It's always about finding better. No matter how good of a person is, he can't change someone's feelings on a whim, nor with all the time in the world. He should def use that time to find someone that loves him not only for what he is, but also for what he can be.
You're welcome bro We're all been there. Trust me, it seems sad rn, but with some time you'll realize how simple everything was to see
You're making it looks like she was a bad person
No. I'm making sure he realizes that he is not in the wrong for feeling bad about this all, and that he's not in the wrong too
It's just a woman in the end. No matter how much I'm sure he loved her, I want him to understand it's not such of a big deal like he might think it is right now
That's sound a bit better than just saying you'll find better
But he will
The girl is not present rn
I care very little IF she MIGHT find offensive how I'm talking about her rn
I care about HIM understanding that there is BETTER out there.
I feel bad on behalf
Because someone that will love him is DEFINITELY better than someone that doesn't love him
I see, you're a good brother
he's such a caring brother for you
Stop the mocking, I'm everything but a "good" something. I just don't want another poor guy crying over a woman and feeling he's the worst thing happened in this fucked up world
What's wrong that, I don't understand you
It's a compliment
I appreciate your help
Yes bro
If he or she always acting different around their little friends, not listening to anything I have to say, not intelligent, just cracking any thing and everything, acting like a sissy bitch, and calls women/men out their name
That's a pretty big expectation to live up to
No it's really just be respectful and not be a whore and have some type of intelligence
Alright, people like me can't really live up to that. Some days I'm messy Nd certain things don't hold up like intelligence Nd respect
Go away
huh
Still think you should tell her though
Like slut who're bitch ect
whore*
If she’s around dudes all the time and has a bad behaviour
