Marriage Promises: Manipulation or Commitment? | FriendZone

so here u are talking bou how manipulate into getting their partner agrreing for physical pleassures..right??

People that get manipulated are usually the ones throwing themselves at the manipulator with barely any time. You obv won’t be able to notice that you’re getting manipulated if you’re already blinded by « love » or should I say the lack of self esteem/obsession/desperation.

True some ppl do that and then it's too late, the damage might've already been done but some can catch it before it happens (more rare imo)

Are you trying to say trusting a person you love is bad...?

manipulators have tactics to isolate a person, they dont just attract 'weak minded' people. this whole idea you have is victim blaming, check yourself

am saying that doing all those things just cuz the partner said they will marry and thats why u should do those things with them..thats wrong

Bro , in this context it’s not victim blaming. At some point you need lucidity. Love bombing is SO obvious.

It isn't
Not every one manipulate obviously
Evil people do it dangerously and in secret

the person being manipulated wont realize it just because outside for you it looks obvious

That is true. But you have to be pretty naive as an adult to believe that someone you’ve known for like a month saying they love you when they barely know you or they’ll marry you.

It's not exclusive to one gender anyways

yea def just saying men cuz she used men as the manipulator in this post

it's not abt certainity tbh it's js ur "less likely" to make rahs nd immature decisions but adults can make such mistakes too

Im just saying people should be cautious. Not every manipulator is a genius.

Yeah and I don't mean men don't do it, I just have heard situations where it's either side

yea

How would you know if they never had plans in getting married?
You aren't in the mind....
Yh some people are naive but regardless tho...
But still not their fault

Trueee

people should be cautious sure but manipulator are usually in the higher bar of certain types of intelligence because they know how to act and talk to get someone to do what they want

Sometimes it happens for much longer than just a month and the marriage is all planned out, just for them to show what they rly want

Im not saying its just the victim that’s at fault. They both are. However we’re discussing the victims aren’t we ? Unless it’s a specific cultural context, let’s not act like people actually get married without knowing each other that much.

people do get married without knowing each other that much tho, not only in specific cultural context but also religious ones and its still a practice

Culture is usually a big part for many marriages which aren't to do with love

Thats true but a lot of them are just mediocre taking advantage of vulnerable people

If we should follow this logic
That means in story of the girl who waited for the gaming pc gift before breaking up with her boyfriend
The boy is at fault too...

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I mean yeah , I’m not saying the opposite there’s plenty of people that lie after 14y of being in a relationship. If you’ve been waiting for a ring for 7y that’s already a sign imo. I’m not saying it’s easy for the victims, but you gotta be strong to leave that situation.

Well religion plays a huge part in those cultures I’m referring to

Why did he trust he should know humans are not trustworthy

Even for that ig it makes more sense if both r trying to enter in a love marriage, but if it's not to do with love then I think it's more that the victim doesn't have much fault for wtvr happens with them

Yeah this

agree

Idk how long they’ve been dating for. But it’s not the smartest thing to do isn’t it ? If you gift someone you’ve known for a short time an expensive gift when you don’t have it like that. We all know how materialistic we all are.

Well yeah there’s not much they can do

They are both at fault