How to Love and Get Loved? A Deep Dive into Vulnerability
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At FriendZone | Make Friends & Chat ⋅ Active Social Fun ⋅ Chill ⋅ VC, we foster deep conversations about human connection. This announcement explores the challenges of overcoming childhood trauma and trust issues to build meaningful relationships. It highlights the importance of patience, vulnerability, and understanding different love languages, inviting our community to share their experiences and support one another in a safe, chill environment.
So im a person who grew up with emotionally unavailable parents and sibling, still i was the most clingy one when I was child, slowly their negligence made me shut down and become nonchalant like them.
There are some past trauma also made me develop avoidance and trust issues.
Well it did not changed the fact that I still wanna be clingy to someone, give and get the affection, love someone and get loved back. But the thing is, now i dont know how to?
So when someone actually shows me affection towards me, love towards me, or even just compliments me, I get confused. 🥲
I dont know how to react, or i will maybe think they are just lying to me or want something from me. Sometimes I just say "thank you" or just smile or laugh, sometimes on text i say nothing at all, which is quite wrong. 😅
Well I do get comfortable and learn how to accept and give love to a person but it takes me so much time to trust them, like atlest few months? And obviously nobody is gonna deal with my issues that long and wait till i get comfortable.
So mostly they end up getting bored or frustrated with me. I feel bad for failing them. I wish I could feel less scared to love and to be loved soneone...
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That's something
Love is simple yet complex thing though
We all still learning and trying to do it right
Comes with alot of vulnerability and stuffs like that
But yeah. I do hope you wish come through
Thank you so much, i also hope i get over my issues and find someone who actually sees me and I become able see them. ❤️
Yes, thank u for encouraging me😄
Okay. But you do know what you want and what you think love is to you, like your own idea on what love is
Because those kind of things sometimes differ btw people
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I, personally, recommend trying to kinda understand eachother more, by moulding more into the other persons ways of showing affection, and the other person trying to understand your ways of showing it. Also remember to listen to YOUR NEEDS and wants. Boundaries are important, but to a trusted person, opening up is the biggest sign of trust. You can do this!!!
Exactly, and its very hard to find someone like urself, basically finding ur soulmate 🥲
Hmm, This actually makes sense. Opening up and showing affection to each other can make us understand each other better. Thank you. 💜
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Oh. Like yourself? I meant, not necessarily someone doesn't have to be like you for you to like them or for them to like you. There can only be one you at most. Which is why I said you probably know what you want in person
Ok, Yes i think i know what I want in a person, I do, but do not know where i can find them. Sometimes I feel like maybe they dont exist.😭
Yeah. Not everyone can be the person you want them to be
Some of us are just ourselves
Yes exactly, just like that i also cant be as people want me to become, im trying to fix some things in me but i also cant change complete right?
I guess so. If it's change that you want for yourself it's fine
But well, everything works out in the end 🥲
