Is Kindness Actually Stupid? | FriendZone Community Debate
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The FriendZone | Make Friends & Chat ⋅ Active Social Fun ⋅ Chill ⋅ VC community recently engaged in a deep discussion regarding the nature of kindness. Members debated whether kindness is a selfless act of human decency or a calculated effort that requires a reward. This conversation highlights the server's vibrant atmosphere where members explore philosophical topics while building meaningful relationships.
Sometimes some people feel like energy vampires
Mental energy is effort, and effort is important with everything. People use effort for everything, so again. Use it positively.
I agree
Exactly
I am very picky on who i need to give my eenrgy too
You still require mental energy to do physical tasks. Thats called motivation.
Ofc I'm not disagreeing since sometimes it's great to be kind, I just mean not to everyone
And to the people who you arent kind to, just be nice instead. As you said, less effort, but still positive. Cant do harm while being harmless.
Yh same, I've wasted a lot without getting just simple respect back so I only focus on those who r good
I see both of u have some past experiences and u both are right
And how do you know whos good?
Yh that works too
Several.
I know. Same for me. Thats y i am trying to find good people here
By how they act towards others, it can be kinda telling with some of them
So that brings up the choice of positivity and negativity. Whats the reason to choosing negativity?
Acting is differant than thoughts.
It's not a only one thing, different interactions with others can call for diff things
Yh so I agreeing being nice at first is fine
That lead down the same roads. Positivity and negativity. Its up to you to decide.
And if they respond with hate, dont hate back. Simply ignore them. Works every time.
Neutrality also works, distancing and maybe trying not to actively talk to whoever it is
Ah sometimes ig
Every time. The extent of ignorancy can be large, but ignorancy works.
Maybe with those which aren't close but it's harder with others
So take the effort.
It comes to a point when there's no energy left to keep making an effort on others
Thats called depression by opresssion. Ive been in that situation not long ago, and the solution is one youve already brought up. Neutrality. Dont go actively looking for relationships by being kind, just let the good ones come to you every so often.
Yeah good idea ngl
It worked for me. Take the chance if you feel that way. I hope it helps.
Yh thx for the idea
Of course!
Yup
U should try eft it helps in breaking a pattern in life
I do it allot
Being kind will make you liked.
We humans have an instinctual and biological imperative to be liked, as we are social animals.
All truly strong people are kind!!!- Vagabond
Deja vu... Did you read Zariel’s “women unalived chivalry” thread and post your opinion as a new thread instead of posting within it?
My opinion is still the same: if you think good deeds are transactional, you’re manipulative and not genuine. I hope people keep taking from you until you eventually think, 'Why do I attract gold diggers?' Remember this post and check yourself
, but it increases the chance, and can lead to relationships (reward)
Being kind will make you liked.(reward)
i think but sometimes i just do it for the sake of it
Not really even if you are too kind i would consider that to be something positive as a person you are a legend if you are kind and you are a human if you are too kind
Man!! Tough, being kind and putting a saintly persona just so you want to be liked- pathetic way to live I'd say!!
Only those are truly kind who do not expect anything in return.
They just help and move on- freaking legends!!
yea thats our human nature and what our brain wants, and evryone including me does thta, but i dont think its transactional ,our subconcious js likes that feeling(reward) so it does it agin and again. we dont expect anything we just get it kinda
Yeah man exactly!!
You just help someone and instantly feel great lol!!
I love it
which is a reward lol
Yeah haha
dap?
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A birthday gift for your partner because you want them to feel loved and seeing them happy makes you happy ≠ transaction
Opening a door for a stranger because you simply want to be kind and it makes you feel good ≠ transaction
A birthday gift for your partner in expectation of a “special” favor in return = transaction
Opening a door for a stranger in expectation of a conversation = a transaction.
As long as you and your partner are transparent about the transactional exchanges, all is good. Other than that, I condemn emotional ruses 😭
