Should Parents Be Forgiven for Trauma? | FriendZone Debate
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I can never forgiven that
Usually that's not a reason, the vast majority of time it could be for selfish reasons
I can only forgive my siblings and grandparents bc they are genue
But what if it looks like a good option?
Imagine feeling like ur in a game
And ur in a choose option
Each time
Like how, looks can decieve
It dosent feel like
Family
It feels like control
Imagine crying in the bathroom
And ur mom says
Stop playing victim
Keep crying
My sister was the one who raised us
And grandparents
They teached us something
Imagine Screaming and no one can hear u so u just want to stand infront of somewhere and die
I will never forgiven selfish, egoistic, manipulative parents
It depends rlly
Like, ive seen cases where ppl and parents reconciled after a long time, either because the parents underwent psychological treatment or because there was genuine dialogue
but there are horrible cases, where a lot of abuse and violence is involved, and if the parents dont change soon, they will never change when they're old, so its complicated
I personally think its better to forgive, not rlly for the other persons sake, but to stop carrying a burden that hurts, n forget bout their existence n the past
So majority says that parents should not be forgiven for their grave mistakes
I've asked myself this question too, bc sometimes it feels like they're doing everything they can to hurt you, bc they know that you NEED to forgive them (as they are your family)
Yes, but do you think they deserve the forgiveness?
I don't know, you've received so many responses, what's your conclusion?
Majority of people said that it depends on the individual. But I personally think that forgiving them is a bad choice
But everyone makes mistakes, no? And living with hate can be so tiring too
Part of moving on involves forgiving, you can forgive someone and never talk to them again
But it sometimes give false hope to the other person that their relationship has been repaired
Yeah,but they don't deserve the forgiveness
Well they wouldn't even have to know necessarily
You can break contact w them, but still forgive?
Yeah but it will seem like their actions are justified
Which is not good
If they don't get to know what effect their actions has made, how are they gonna work on it?
Justice is not for you to deliver
I get what you mean and it is ofc not justified, but forgiving them doesn't mean that their actions were okay. It only means that you've moved on from it and that you don't want they're actions from the past to also ruin your bright future
But to achieve that you have to address the effects of their actions. And how far they have affected you
Of course. Good point. But what if your forgiveness make them feel like their actions were justified. Forgiving them can sometimes be misinterpreted as their actions didn't cause any major problems. Which is not the thing we are trying to achieve
Yeah, it takes so much courage tho
Yes, that's true
Fuck no.
Why?
I can't exactly formulate just how I feel about it into words.
I don't hate them.
But I will never, ever forgive them.
Ok
