Stop Being 'Dry': The Truth About Making Friends Online
Summary
The FriendZone | Make Friends & Chat ⋅ Active Social Fun ⋅ Chill ⋅ VC community is debating the etiquette of finding friends online. This announcement explores the frustration surrounding 'don't be boring' demands in friend-finding channels, highlighting how such expectations often hinder genuine connection. Members discuss the disconnect between online and offline personalities and why simple, authentic introductions are often the best way to find meaningful friendships.
Okay I’m gonna get blasted for this but people who say ‘don’t be boring’ or ‘don’t be dry’ in the find friends channel come across as rude, like surely it’s half on you to carry the convo too? Most these people I’ve messaged are some of the most boring people on here lol
Instead if you’re gonna be picky like that, explain what you want, like expectations or topics or stuff you wanna talk about idk
Boring is a relative term.
bro people are npcs online, they are completely braindead when they open their phone, people arent as serious online as they r irl
and most people arent even looking for true friends honestly, dont expect too much from most people
Exactly which is why it’s dumb to say it
It is quite dependent on your interests and dislikes, thus, including it is quite redundant.
I don’t it’s just no wonder ppl don’t have friends if they’re making posts like it
Another interesting phenomenon is people asking others to "not start with something dry".
I ignore those ones because, again, they are but relative, trying so looks pathetically appeasing.
yh its like i shud function according to them
according to those entitled piece of craps
And, the function it serves is, again, filtering out people, something an introduction is already supposed to do.
Ironically, it works exactly as intended /:
ofc it does, cuz people dont think twice before sending a message
and honestly those convos just end in a day or two
and the difference between somebody's personality irl and online is HUGEE
I useally just start with hi cus my logic is if that’s enough to skip ya, their not worth it
I either start with that or asking their age or country
I've had so many as such.
One small talk, and it goes stagnant.
It is as if some people are entertained by the very idea of having a talk, rather than the direction it goes in, and abandon it when bored.
maybe people are here just for quick chats?
and people expect 'others' to entertain them, or bring a cool topic, rather than putting the same effort in return
i literally stopped dm'ing people. cuz now ik that its bullshit, especially in servers specifically made for ask2dm
I’ve met one or two cool ppl but most go no where so I’ve been tempted to as well
Same /:
Doesn't help that almost every introduction you come across is the same.
That's Persian, is it not ?
there was a guy i talked to almost daily and played minecraft with for 2 months, and idk what happend but he blocked me, he was cool tho and could relate with me
yhhh its persian!!
I notified if I put loads of info on my posts no one would dm so being specific was hurting me lol
That’s fair yeah that’s why you sorta need multiple ppl and not to just focus on one
ykw instead of doing all that shit just go outside
I see ! Do you know Persian ?
I find finding friends hard
Irl
It is, especially when your interests are what others find queer.
no i dont, ive been studying the arabic script tho
yh but if ur on discord, thinking that u have no friends, thats gonna make u rlly sad,
but if u go outside and u know that u have nobody, but still somehow it feels good, cuz u talk to urself more, see some movement, see fellow humans.
I do get what you mean
Ah, ok.
Arabic is an interesting language, particularly its ancient form, quite beautiful.
Quite grammatically complex, too, if I remember correctly.
it is rlly cool, and so is the way u write, right to left
it is very complicated
That is quite true about Semitic languages.
almost every noun and verb stems from a 3-letter consonant root
Languages that write opposite to English always amaze me especially when someone stretches from one to the other
Studying a language, that is written in a different direction, is quite an interesting experience.
Especially since your brain's processing is wired to understand in one direction, it opens your mind a bit.
Yeah I mean I can’t even learn another language I find it amazing some ppl know 5+
It is a shame how many Semitic languages have went extinct. Only some remain along with their native speakers [not Hebrew of course].
These are the kind of discussions I look for XD, not the bland ones. These ones atleast have some intrinsic value and drive curiosity.
I think gradually more and more languages will die, idk why
Same with currencies I love country’s with their own currency it gives them an identity but euros took em
they're looking for friends on discord. what did you fucking expect, if they had good social skills, they would've found friends in real life already and not need to rely on discord. 💀
Trueeee I feel personally attacked tho
Yep exactly
True true
