Community Guidelines Reminder — CNC Club 18+

So why do we bring this up?
Because while these feelings are understandable, and even though we sympathize with how hard it is to be new or quiet or feel not included, and even though we do our best as a large server to welcome others and ask everyone to do the same...there are proper ways to manage such feelings.

For example, you can communicate your feelings and similar experiences to friends for support, in fact we encourage you to. Sharing is how friendships are built!

But we cannot turn those feelings into public rants, accusations, claims that we're being purposely targeted or singled out.

We're not new to this, though. So while this is not the case the large majority of the time, we know it's not impossible it is. If you feel targeted, treated unfairly, or if rules are being broken, we beg you to open a ticket and express this to staff, who will listen, investigate and provide honest, third party feedback about what they see.

Sometimes staff may agree, sometimes.. not, but they will look at the facts without feelings involved, and provide an objective view of the situation, while being happy to talk with you about your experience. In fact, staff usually look at such situations as a team, weighing various views and observances to be sure no one staff is biased or providing feedback on a single reading or misreading of a situation.

All of that being said, once staff have given you a position, the next step is yours: either accept it, continue to work through it, and stay (which we're always rooting for!) or don't, and leave if that decision makes you realize this is not the place for you(It's okay if it isn't).

But a proper option is not staying while disagreeing, and using this space to take down staff or the community we have built.

We believe and encourage members to share feedback and opinions respectfully and in proper channels, and in fact we regularly make changes to the server and policies based on both public and private suggestions. But you can not spend time here bashing an institution while simultaneously expecting it to welcome you(that's silly). This community is unfortunately not therapy and it is not a support group either. It is a Kink community.

Being mean, dismissive and accusatory to staff working tirelessly for free to keep this space positive and lively for holding each member to the same rules and standards will not be tolerated. Respect is a two way street.

Remember, nothing and no one is perfect. Including us. We support you, we want you to feel seen, we want to help build connections and foster a community where everyone feels safe and welcomed, and we want you all to feel free sharing your tips, ideas, experiences and advice to improve this place for us all.

All we ask is that it be done through proper channels with appropriate respect. When we flood chats with criticism of others or staff, arguments, judgments, we ruin the community we all love. When we keep chats easy, calm and fun, and use proper channels to report or discuss problems, concerns or feedback, we create an environment where friendships, connections and kink can actually flourish.