مواعدة رجال أكبر سناً: النضج مقابل العمر | نقاش في FriendZone
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يستكشف هذا النقاش على خادم Discord FriendZone | Make Friends & Chat ⋅ Active Social Fun ⋅ Chill ⋅ VC السؤال الشائع حول ما إذا كانت مواعدة رجال أكبر سناً تضمن علاقة أفضل. يشارك أعضاء المجتمع آراءهم حول الفرق بين البحث عن النضج مقابل فئات عمرية محددة، ويقدمون نصائح متوازنة حول إيجاد شريك يقدرك حقاً. يسلط النقاش الضوء على أهمية البحث عن سمات الشخصية الجيدة بدلاً من التوقعات القائمة على العمر في أي علاقة صحية.
هل يجب أن أفكر في مواعدة رجال أكبر سناً؟ أنا في حيرة من أمري.
نعم، أتحدث عن 35 عاماً فما فوق
وكم عمرك أنتِ؟
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لا
هههه، أتمنى لو أجد رجلاً في الثلاثينيات أو الأربعينيات يحبني
أعتقد أنكِ تخلطين بين رغبتك في النضج لدى الشريك وبين 'أن تكوني محبوبة أكثر'. كون الشخص في سن 35+ لا يضمن بأي حال من الأحوال أنه سيقدرك أكثر، أو يفهمك بشكل أفضل، أو يحبك بعمق أكبر. إذا كان ما تريدينه حقاً هو شخص يجعلك تشعرين بأنك مقدرة بعمق، فهذا أمر مفهوم تماماً، لكن هذه صفة شخصية يجب البحث عنها، وليست العمر. وإلا فأنتِ تختارين فئة عمرية بناءً على ما تتوقعين منهم تقديمه لكِ بدلاً من البحث عن شريك حقيقي متكافئ.
Try me and find out
I’m quite and I can disprove such theory
A year older than you, then…
Still works for me
Take my hand
Yes
Older men know how to manipulate
Hmm
Hmm.. I'm not in support of those people. But I do have a question
Is it always manipulation
And never just be love?
In rare cases it can be love
Well I don't know really much abt it , but I don't prefer dating men older than me by 3 years
I see. Definition a rare case as you say although the world is a big place. And right everyone has a preference
Yes that's what it is everyone has a preference
Agreed
Older men have experience about many things, and maybe that's why young girls like to date them
That does sound as a good reason
Although it has other reasons beyond just that
Alot of things are like that
Young guys aren't like a zero bad chances either
That which we have agreed on once again
I see.
It goes with me too
Well. As long as you are an adult that's fine for me
Yeah. Those cases do have a way that's it's handled
I can't date someone who is holding past relationship trauma, and above that I haven't dated anyone so far
Hmm. A personal reference
Why though?
Even if you love them you can't help them go through it?
I know know that. That's why I'm asking,it doesn't have to be your job for you to do something if you want that person
Well, not easy for everyone to push themselves
Which is why having someone there isn't that bad but I guess it's their preference once again
I can't love anyone more than myself , for me I come first , I am my 1st priority , and If in future I date someone , I will stay loyal to him , but if he had some past traumas he is holding and constantly comparing me with his ex , so I can't love that person cuz for me , My emotional stability matters a lot , I can't lost my sanity for someone
Sounds a bit like fairytale. Not everyone fights those demons alone, we ain't all that strong
Seriously this ppl will dwell in their past and will make others feel guilty if they are enjoying their life
Oh . I respect your choice then. You are you even if someone does try to compare you to someone else that didn't change a thing about you. Also Loving yourself is totally a valid first option but being in a relationship is Something that has to do with two people and not just one's self. Yeah sanity totally needed. Although I wonder why you would lose it just because you date a person like that
I have seen cases , where due to ppl like this their partners have ended their lives , one of the prominent cases I read was a woman was blackmailing her husband to buy her luxurious things even when her husband couldn't afford it , she then forced him to take a loan change jobs , and in the end she left him , the man couldn't hold back
Well. You did change, being In a relationship is just two whole people being together. Why did you have to change for her though. Can't love someone and still be the same you that they loved when they met you?
Alright. Seeing cases is fine. I do get your preference. But that doesn't mean other people's cases show an absolute thing that would happen if you go down that route
I see.
Why didn't you say anything?
How do you know that when you didn't talk about it
The simple thing for me love is mutual
Oh. Well,I don't know who she is so I guess I don't have much say on how it all played out
