Should Parents Be Forgiven for Trauma? | FriendZone Debate
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Still up to the individual.
Not everything has to help you for you to do it
But what do you think?
Should a person remain silent on such cruel activities or should he speak up?
Well, I wish I could tell you about my experience but it's too long
Does that include forgiving extreme issues which ppl very much understood what they were doing/saying
Long story short,they did ask for forgiveness, and I asked why did he do what he did 
You just gotta tell us how to deal with it or to be more accurate, how you think the situation should actually be handled
I don't know. It's all up to the individual Nd their experience
Kay
I think moving on sometimes helps, without necessarily forgiving them
We are asking your opinion though. So you can give your opinion irrespective of thinking about other individuals
Like just leaving things in the past, especially if they're just a part of ur life
Not always tho
What about the future sufferings?
Pretty much this, there is no right or wrong answer it's up to the person and what happened to them
You can sit here all day and pick the argument apart lol
Depends on if it's still actively going on, but if they're a child/teen then there's less options on what they can do but they should at least have some sort of support
At times forgiveness should be out of the question tho, depending on how extreme it is
Oh. So I grew up without my dad and with my Gramps, so the day my grandpa was buried. My dad and his people came Nd was trying to ask for forgiveness Nd reunion stuff I guess. My other siblings didn't even want to see them but I was the eldest so I had to talk to my brother Nd get us to see them also partly because of my mom too. Anyways, all was forgiven, although it didn't make the past go away.
Exactly
Good point. But how could a kid decide which is extreme and which is not if he thinks that his/her parents should not be addressed about it by him/her
For something someone may call extreme might not be the same for another
Yeah fair point
It is up to the person,
Parents aren't entitled to your forgiveness if they caused serious trauma or something like that
Parents are adults not just adults , matured adults most knew what they were doing
In the end family matters
I think they'll somewhat understand if it is acc extreme, especially with how they may respond to what happened or actively has been happening to them tho also they can't always talk to their parents abt it (idk if that's what u meant)
You can't change blood
What about your opinion? What would you do if you faced such an act
Fair answer. But does the family deserve to be called your family even if they caused great trauma to you?
Is calling them family a formality (as they are your family, you have the same blood) or is it because you want to repair whatever ties were severed in the past
No
They should not be forgiven
But why? They are your parents after all
It depends,it was serious and I don't see the need then nah
But if it wasn't serious then I would forgive
Not forgiving is different from having hatred or grudges
Grudges would affect you mentally so it is advisable to let go of that grudges even if you choose not to forgive them...
Blood is thicker than water, with the actual saying being The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb so at times 'family' might not hold as much weight, even less so if they cause some of their own to have severe trauma
They are not parents if they let an Abu*ve one slide away, they are not parents if they neglected you
They are not parents if they did not love u
They are not parents if they Lied about everything
Agreed
But they're trying their best. They are wanting the best for you.
No they want the best for themselves
They dont care about us
Sometimes forgiveness can be tricky, for example if a parent has to leave and has no or less choice in the matter
And the other just causes emotional distress
What if they cared about you but still wanted the things for themselves. And maybe to get the best for themselves,they caused a bit trauma to you
A bit trauma? Nah they ruined my life
But what if it was for the greater good?
No its not they made their choice
They are blinded by an manipulator
Bc they want to be
I love how I got betrayed in the most hurtful way ever
