Dramaturgy Theory Roles and Real Relationships
It is theory speaking about people creating and playing social roles just as "server leader", "car mechanic" and go on.
Because of that people are creating own vision of world that is either forced on self or others.
Expecting people to play a certain role to became accepted by others.
By "entering into role" people aren't showing self but the type of characteristics that are being accepted under the role. It works even in dating world and so for that reason people doesn't love a person but rather the role that person is playing.. as example a "doomer" or "femboy".
This is also a main reason why most of relationships are falling off since that role cannot be played all the time by us. And so our true self is showing on and the people that "felt in love with us" aren't really interested in us but in the role we have played.
What about you? Would you prefer to be rejected by majority but be accepted truly by 2 people or do you prefer to live in ilusion of be accepted by everyone?
Both can be a difficult choice.
If I prefer to be rejected by the majority and be accepted truly by only a few people, then I would likely resort to act in front stage just to achieve what is expected to me. On the other handโif I prefer to lived in illusion just to be accepted by everyone, then I would likely feel frustrated for some reason.
Nonetheless, whether be rejected or accepted by many has their own implications that leads to discontentment or frustration.
Explain the difference in approach to "making friends" . ( It's in quote since everyone has own definition what even friend is)
The Organic/Passive approach and Intentional/Active approach, right?
The organic approach relies on proximity and repetition. It's the traditional way we made friends. Like when we spend enough time around the same people and friendship happens naturally through shared experiences.
On the other hand, the intentional approach treats friendship like a skill or a project. Friendship is a choice, not an accident. We seek out people with shared values rather than just shared locations. Just like joining a specific server in discord to meet people with the same interest.
As for my own definition of what friend isโI think I would associate it to something that is genuine rather than dramatic interaction just like what you've stated in the theory presented.
"It's a rather shallow type of relationship, if you want my opinion on that, because it doesn't even talk about aiming for someone or having a goal with someone, but rather just finding a place to carry out the daily ritual of 'conversation'."
Exactly.
If you can tell me, what's the point of these rituals if everyone tries to speak in the 'accepted by majority' tone and hides their most important self? Since each of our frequencies is pretty much different from each other and normally we would bring out similar to ourselves, but by doing the whole dramaturgy, no one is able to decode our hidden message at all?
Especially since it is the very reason of why most of the internet place became dead.
Safety and lack of anxiety, most people fear rejection and therefore do not overtly communicate the standards of their behavior in clear fashion as doing so may be counterintuitive to achieving their goals or desired preferences within socialization.
Dramaturgy however is an extended two way issue, both for the recipient and participant, this is often simplified as "limerence" when it is a person perceiving another in the framing of love, but I think 'dramaturgy' is a valid use of the term to define the communicational issue.
The problem arises because people don't "know" where or how to encapsulate and express their own being with communication effectively with memetic and vocabulary description. This tends to be why people say "body language is the key!", however, I think that's a deflection from the issue.
Playing this game doesn't solve the fear factor but only grows it more and more since you will experience rejection with 99% of the chance by majority since they doesn't know you. They only know your "actor play".
"The problem arises because people don't "know" where or how to encapsulate and express their own being with communication effectively "
Naah. The problem is people are trying to fit the "required style of communication" instead of using own native one. Simple as that.
Just like average Sanguine expect every other temperament type to focus on Social positivity and atmosphere building priority.
diversity has been replaced with systemacy of communication and people began to require from each other to speak the same "language of the internet" , the same schemat and play exactly the same way. Even to the point of creating NEW LABELS as these LABELS are FORCING u to behave in certain way.
Practice example?
How looks like typing in enneagram or mbti? You are being compared to behavior, you are being compared to specific "picture of the moment" in which people behave in similar way.
If people would really care about individuality and diversity the typing would involve SELF-OBSERVATION and MEASUREMENT of SELF instead of CONSTANTLY COMPARING SELF WITH OTHERS.
Trust me. It is 100% possible to make an empirical way typing of enneagram using for example EGOGRAM. It removes completely the requirement of comparing self with others.
That is false equivocation, that implies that to the persons perception, the choice of dramaturgy is not more beneficial than complete dismissal.
Furthermore, you can't say that comparison is a negligent activity without removing communication entirely, this seems like pure hedonistic propaganda rather than a discussion or theory given the nature of the discussion thus far, can you prove me wrong?
Frankly the structure of the proposed theory needs formal revision, it is lacking.
I said proofs and I don't have to explain it to someone that won't gonna understand.
But well if u know a better solution to restore a functioning deep relations and a way for autists to exist in society as well.
Good luck.
Have deep relations lmao?
Ye. Such a thing seems to not be understood by your young age of generation.
But it is what it is.
No I just chose differently, pretentious and antagonistic behavior I find distasteful.
As if it's better with your LGBT one propaganda.
Trash.
I think lgbt has issues remember?
I will be rewording this post soon as I have a level of familiarity with the theory and discourse.
I have finished my rewording with a little dismay at the brevity it takes to summarize the topic, I will leave this post for posterity on the substance of Dramaturgic discourse and for reference.
"Reference"
