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What would you do in this situation, not being raised well and not having parents that is supportive bc they were only neglective and only selfish cared about themself and said drama to you but then later they said nah i Lied he is a nice guy and all that, i fear that stage is manipulation , i cant see it my self but i am trapped here, what would you do in this situation and any tips?
ignore em
Tough call, it does not matter what had been done, what matters is how you react now-
At the end of the day it comes down to you!!
If you can live without being involved with them for the rest of your life, do what is best for you!!- I'd also want you to know about what could happen if you do separate yourself from them- it's one life we have, if you'd regret separating yourself from them then I'd say It's not worth it...
Why dosent it matter
Because it cannot be changed, Thinking about what happened will waste more of your time and trust me it's not worth it, to make yourself suffer again and again thinking about the past or future for that matter.
Humans suffer more by thinking rather than while performing an action, so stop yourself before you venture into the cage of suffering.
The more you hold the pain inside
The more you will hurt
Its better to vent about it then being hidden
And even its impossible to control it if its constant flashbacks
Past is a part of improvement
Yk what suffering is
If you hold it inside and you be like ok and accept it
Then you will later get more hurt and destroyed
So it is in fact very bad to hold emotions inside when you need to have someone there
Police can get involved
Depends on what parents
And then family drama allat shi
Depends on different people,
Some would feel the idea to vent and then feel the relief after results comforting others would not want to think about what has haunted them till now.
If you are a child and dependent on parents then it can't be helped but if you are an adult who can decide what to do and are not dependent on them then you should get yourself away from those things that constantly pains you.
Why choose to live suffering again and again by involving in the cage that binded you in your childhood and not enjoy the other pleasures and gifts life has to offer??
If you wish to separate yourself from the paths that have been intertwined with your parents I think forgiveness is a hard but right choice- " not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace!!!!"
For a child to say what you say about your parents you must have had an extremely horrible parenting experience, so I won't be suggesting you anything looking forward knowing I don't know what kind of experience you did have.
The thing I'd say is remember always to think about what consequences your decisions will get you and will they make you happy or regret later in life- this is the question you should ask and you can make a decision best for you after that!!!
For a child to say what you say about your parents you must have had an extremely horrible parenting experience, so I won't be suggesting you anything looking forward knowing I don't know what kind of experience you did have.
The thing I'd say is remember always to think about what consequences your decisions will get you and will they make you happy or regret later in life- this is the question you should ask and then you can make a decision best for you after that!!!
For a child to say what you say about your parents, you must have had an extremely horrible parenting experience, so I won't be suggesting you anything looking forward knowing I don't have the idea about what kind of experience you did have.
The thing I'd say is remember always to think about what consequences your decisions will get you and will they make you happy or regret later in life- this is the question you should ask and then you can make a decision best for you after that!!!
Hmm
Its not a choice
I told u flashbacks cant be helped
Maybe bc it hurts so deeply bc you have been Lied too
And manipulated
And neglected and too abondened
That it feels like hell
Not everyone sees the gift in life its more anexiety and scared to ever trust
Forgiveness is never an option
If you got hit by one of the parents much and other was like screaming and just after defending the other parent
Then you feel betrayed
And it cant ever be forgiven
Imagine living through a hell where you could only rely on ur siblings and ur siblings had to be the ones being parents bc the others was stuck being babies
And selfish
They never deserve kindness
Or peace
For what they have done
Blocking would cause drama tried once
But now i think my mom dont care anymore
People say u can get disability after sort of bad behavior but idk if its true or just the brain but having mild intellectual disability going through all this flashbacks
I wonder sometimes why was life doing this
Neglection
Well i am trying to see what makes me happy
But i dont have much friends to hangout with either
So its hard to know alone
I just find bird parks funny
Oh my!!!
You have been through a lot.
The flashbacks you say about, yup if they cannot be controlled and trigger again and again I don't think it's healthy.
You mention about trying to block them once and I assume they created new drama altogether...
You have been keeping yourself hard and moving along with this terrible situation, you have done good but it's now effecting you too much I can see.
Alas I'll tell you this miss, "they don't have the power you think they have over you!!!!"
You are no longer dependent on them I assume?? You are an adult- you can decide what to do next.
I just hope your parents just have a bit of idea what they have inflicted upon you and understand your point of view but if they don't, then you should do what is best for you. seek professional help too if you think you need it (because it will exhaust and drain you mentally and emotionally both).
From what I know you have the power to decide if you wish to avoid them or remain connected with them, what I don't get is why is this so very hard for you???
Even though you mention your parents don't deserve your forgiveness and mercy still I'll have to admit I see clues that it has been hard for you to let go somehow.? Am I correct on assuming that??
I know you have abandonment issues deep rooted from childhood, have you ever thought about your own role and understand your situation in all of this???
Your sibling have been an anchor I think, I am sure you have talked to them about this..let them help you if you are having problem solving this...
Oh my!!!
You have been through a lot.
The flashbacks you say about, yup if they cannot be controlled and trigger again and again I don't think it's healthy.
You mention about trying to block them once and I assume they created new drama altogether...
You have been keeping yourself hard and moving along with this terrible situation, you have done good but it's now effecting you too much I can see.
Alas I'll tell you this miss, "they don't have the power you think they have over you!!!!"
You are no longer dependent on them I assume?? You are an adult- you can decide what to do next.
I just hope your parents have a little bit of idea what they have inflicted upon you and understand your point of view but if they don't, then you should do what is best for you. seek professional help too if you think you need it (because it will exhaust and drain you mentally and emotionally both).
From what I know you have the power to decide if you wish to avoid them or remain connected with them, what I don't get is why is this so very hard for you???
Even though you mention your parents don't deserve your forgiveness and mercy still I'll have to admit I see clues that it has been hard for you to let go somehow.? Am I correct on assuming that??
I know you have abandonment issues deep rooted from childhood, have you ever thought about your own role and understand your situation in all of this???
Your sibling have been an anchor I think, I am sure you have talked to them about this..let them help you if you are having problem solving this...
They will have big drama and prob call police
And i hate that
That police gets involved
Seeking help costs alot
Its hard bc my mom always created drama and calls my grandpa and then there will be alot
More
Its not hard to let go, its only hard bc it is drama and i feel forced to keep unblocked bc people said
Blocking is not right thing to do
Shes ur "mom"
I have always been needing to babysit someone older then me so idk what purpose is in my life
Or role
I dont talk to them alot about it i talk a few things to my siblings they have it hard too
The purpose is life itself, it's to explore and enjoy the pleasures and gift of this grand adventure.
Can't blame you for not knowing because you have been too much focused on a single pain point that has made you not see the heavenly glory around it.
If all this is hurting you then eventually you'll have to do something because if not, then you'll suffer for a long period of time, even when they are gone.
You fear what drama will happen afterwards and want to avoid it so I can see why you say what you say, in this case I think the best firm action you could take is have a proper conversation with them- clear out your boundaries.
And if you'd want to avoid even that then remember "what you are not changing, you are choosing it".
Sure enough you do not want to be imposing on your siblings- fact is you don't need to, you are an adult, decide what is best for you.
