How to Move On From a Past Relationship | FriendZone Advice

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In this community discussion at FriendZone | Make Friends ⋅ Fun Chill Active Chat ⋅ VC Social Gaming ⋅ Memes ⋅ Nitro Emojis ⋅ Anime, members share heartfelt advice on overcoming the lingering pain of a past relationship. The conversation covers the challenges of moving on after years apart and finding new passions like music to aid the healing process. It highlights the supportive nature of the server, where members offer empathy and practical steps to help others focus on personal growth and po...

crispheron-90 OP

Its been around 2 years since we broke up...iv had relationships after that but i keep relapsing...wadduido?

@crispheron-90 Its been around 2 years since we broke up...iv had relationships after that but i keep relapsing...…
pearlguitar-88

Chill

pearlguitar-88

Tbh

pearlguitar-88

I never been into a relationship and never had a crush

crispheron-90 OP

Nah fam she was the one...i had been in flings before her but she made me committed....made me a changed person...now idk what do i even do

@crispheron-90 Nah fam she was the one...i had been in flings before her but she made me committed....made me a ch…
pearlguitar-88

Idk man my celebrity crush is john cena sooo that explains a loot...

crispheron-90 OP

...

pearlguitar-88

YOU'RE TIME IS UP MY TIME IS NOW YOU CAN'T SEE ME MY TIME IS NOW

pearlguitar-88

Just move on man life will continue as you think about her

crispheron-90 OP

iv moved on

crispheron-90 OP

i dont love her anymore

crispheron-90 OP

but i cant stop thinking about her either

@crispheron-90 but i cant stop thinking about her either
pearlguitar-88

Don't think be stupid like me

pearlguitar-88

:gigachad:

crispheron-90 OP

ugh'

@crispheron-90 ugh'
pearlguitar-88

It's ez don't worry i can give you a tutorial 😃

hazelpanda-96

Relapsing as in, do you just miss her or you guys …

@hazelpanda-96 Relapsing as in, do you just miss her or you guys …
crispheron-90 OP

i just miss her...it doesn't help that i run into her every once in a while

crispheron-90 OP

we dont talk much anymore tho

@crispheron-90 we dont talk much anymore tho
hazelpanda-96

And is it over over?

hazelpanda-96

You can’t ask her to get back together fs?

@hazelpanda-96 And is it over over?
crispheron-90 OP

oh yeah its as over as it can get...there is no getting back together unless she changes her mind

crispheron-90 OP

which is pretty impossible

hazelpanda-96

:r_kermitcorner: :r_kermitcorner:

hazelpanda-96

Then u just have to suck it up and probably start finding other things that make u happy :cuteblob:

crispheron-90 OP

i have been doing that

crispheron-90 OP

iv been working on my music

crispheron-90 OP

i enjoy it

crispheron-90 OP

but

crispheron-90 OP

her.

crispheron-90 OP

😮‍💨

@crispheron-90 her.
hazelpanda-96

Aww, Her! I think then the option is to have another her and fall for her. :cuteblob:

crispheron-90 OP

not that easy ;-;

steadyjewel-73

is she a drug?

@steadyjewel-73 is she a drug?
pearlguitar-88

Yeah it's called coke

@steadyjewel-73 is she a drug?
crispheron-90 OP

the most addicting kind

@crispheron-90 the most addicting kind
hazelpanda-96

U r so in love…. Its cute

hazelpanda-96

Ask people here

hazelpanda-96

Maybe they can help u forget her :y_shook:

@hazelpanda-96 U r so in love…. Its cute
crispheron-90 OP

i saw her today

crispheron-90 OP

it wasnt good

@crispheron-90 Its been around 2 years since we broke up...iv had relationships after that but i keep relapsing...…
sharpdolphin-67

Reflect on your current situation
What is there to improve
What is there to overcome
How will you change for the better
What will you do from here on out
Always think positive rather than thinking negative

I know that one significant other will always be remembered in your heart sometimes it’s ideally best to let go of them and not bother them whatsoever
They are called “exes” after all
Moving on is very rough but we have to fight the pain and suffering in order to move on from the past
I know the future can be scary but
This is based upon your own life and certainty
🤙

@sharpdolphin-67 Reflect on your current situation What is there to improve What is there to overcome How will you c…
crispheron-90 OP

i mean iv moved on in that way

crispheron-90 OP

iv gotten better

crispheron-90 OP

at whatever i do

crispheron-90 OP

physically

crispheron-90 OP

mentally

crispheron-90 OP

emotionally

crispheron-90 OP

she's just stuck on my mind

@crispheron-90 she's just stuck on my mind
sharpdolphin-67

I see

@crispheron-90 i saw her today
hazelpanda-96

💔

hazelpanda-96

Brooooo 💔

hazelpanda-96

I hope u r fine

crispheron-90 OP

we'v been ignoring each other lately

swiftorchid-87

There's nw out ngl💔🥹

swiftorchid-87

just hope time does its works and u forget it slowly

@crispheron-90 we'v been ignoring each other lately
hazelpanda-96

Thats all u can do ❤️

@swiftorchid-87 just hope time does its works and u forget it slowly
hazelpanda-96

Exactly

@hazelpanda-96 Thats all u can do ❤️
crispheron-90 OP

I miss her

crispheron-90 OP

Ik its not rational

crispheron-90 OP

And i hate that i do miss her

crispheron-90 OP

I want it to stop

@crispheron-90 And i hate that i do miss her
hazelpanda-96

Broooo, I understand 💔 💔

hazelpanda-96

Breakups are like losing a person, all you can do is grieve 💔

hazelpanda-96

Time heals everything

hazelpanda-96

Let it do its job

@hazelpanda-96 Breakups are like losing a person, all you can do is grieve 💔
crispheron-90 OP

Yeah but when you lose a person....you dont see them anymore....in my case....we somehow run into each other almost everyday

@crispheron-90 Yeah but when you lose a person....you dont see them anymore....in my case....we somehow run into e…
hazelpanda-96

Thats just 💔 I cant think of anythign else.. It just sucks.....

@pearlguitar-88 Yeah it's called coke
steadyjewel-73

i prefer crystal meth

@steadyjewel-73 i prefer crystal meth
pearlguitar-88

Oh ok ok not bad

@pearlguitar-88 Idk man my celebrity crush is john cena sooo that explains a loot...
mintpocket-57

Bro chose a celeb crush you cant even see:ohno:

@mintpocket-57 Bro chose a celeb crush you cant even see
pearlguitar-88

Fr :sadcatto:

@pearlguitar-88 Fr
mintpocket-57

When the kids ask to see him and he just says "YOU CANT SEE ME":y_shook:

@mintpocket-57 When the kids ask to see him and he just says "YOU CANT SEE ME"
pearlguitar-88

Lmaoo :y_shook:

crispheron-90 OP

him?

crispheron-90 OP

she's a she if that's what ur asking

crispheron-90 OP

cant

crispheron-90 OP

🥺

@crispheron-90 Its been around 2 years since we broke up...iv had relationships after that but i keep relapsing...…
wildknight-88

Watch 500 days of summer

@wildknight-88 Watch 500 days of summer
crispheron-90 OP

I ended up watching 13 reasons why

@crispheron-90 I ended up watching 13 reasons why
wildknight-88

:armscrossed:

@wildknight-88
crispheron-90 OP

Ik it sucks

@wildknight-88 Watch 500 days of summer
swiftorchid-87

ahh u want him dead or what💔

@swiftorchid-87 ahh u want him dead or what💔
wildknight-88

He needs motivation

wildknight-88

That's the best I can give

crispheron-90 OP

so the idea of killing myself is motivation?

crispheron-90 OP

i tried it twice before...on 2 different occassions

crispheron-90 OP

then it diluted into months of self-harm from which iv recovered now

crispheron-90 OP

not a pretty time

@crispheron-90 so the idea of killing myself is motivation?
wildknight-88

I didn't say that

wildknight-88

I didn't say anything about killing

crispheron-90 OP

ugh

wildknight-88

I didn't say anything :armscrossed:

crispheron-90 OP

nah its alright

wildknight-88

I've learnt by lesson 💔

crispheron-90 OP

im just confused

crispheron-90 OP

a lot

crispheron-90 OP

well now the current situation is kindda weird

crispheron-90 OP

with her

wildknight-88

What why how??

@crispheron-90 well now the current situation is kindda weird
wildknight-88

Ohh sorry to hear that

crispheron-90 OP

okay so basically

crispheron-90 OP

i had moved away for my college...so i thought that my chapter with her was closed once and for all

crispheron-90 OP

then i got really sick there...had to move back home and now im back near her

crispheron-90 OP

we met one day and decided that we'll still be friends

wildknight-88

That's complicated

wildknight-88

But yea be friends

crispheron-90 OP

its not even 10% of the story

wildknight-88

Idk what else to day

@wildknight-88 But yea be friends
crispheron-90 OP

thats what's not happening

crispheron-90 OP

we were friends

crispheron-90 OP

and then one random day

crispheron-90 OP

she started acting hostile

crispheron-90 OP

she wouldnt talk and she'd just ignore me

@crispheron-90 she wouldnt talk and she'd just ignore me
wildknight-88

Must be mood swings

crispheron-90 OP

and i never really tried to reach out to her after that

@wildknight-88 Must be mood swings
crispheron-90 OP

not for a month

@crispheron-90 and i never really tried to reach out to her after that
wildknight-88

💔

crispheron-90 OP

and she made it very clear to my friend

@crispheron-90 and she made it very clear to my friend
wildknight-88

Ohh sorry about that 😔

crispheron-90 OP

plus to make it worse

crispheron-90 OP

her current boyfriend...the guy she "passivly cheated" on me with

crispheron-90 OP

went out of state for his university earlier this month

crispheron-90 OP

now her boyfriend wanted me and her to be friends

crispheron-90 OP

he was vouching for it for some reason

crispheron-90 OP

but now im just confused

wildknight-88

:ohno:

crispheron-90 OP

about why she turned hostile

crispheron-90 OP

its messed on so many levels istfg

@crispheron-90 about why she turned hostile
wildknight-88

Mb she had her reasons

crispheron-90 OP

if she did...i'd have found out

crispheron-90 OP

i know her better than she does

crispheron-90 OP

she said it herself

crispheron-90 OP

even after we broke up

crispheron-90 OP

but this...its confusing the living fuck out of me

crispheron-90 OP

cuz i didnt do anything wrong

crispheron-90 OP

to be given that treatment

wildknight-88

🥀

wildknight-88

You deserve better bud

crispheron-90 OP

i know i do

wildknight-88

Jus move on

crispheron-90 OP

i honestly want nothing to do with her anymore

crispheron-90 OP

but it doesnt help seeing her outside almost everyday

crispheron-90 OP

running into each other...being awkward

crispheron-90 OP

its like we are strangers

wildknight-88

Hmm

@crispheron-90 its like we are strangers
hazelpanda-96

That must really hurt.....

wittymaple-15

Bro i think u should just cut off...no type of online interactions and u should break the friendship too,if u will have things which remind u of her u won't be able to move on...being stuck with your past won't do u any good...u can try new hobbies which might lead to new friends it will help..but it's all up to u...as much as I read..she cheated on u or something..so I don't think it can be recovered...just remove her from your life...try to avoid interactions with her too

@wittymaple-15 Bro i think u should just cut off...no type of online interactions and u should break the friendshi…
crispheron-90 OP

there is no online interaction...we cut off all contacts

@crispheron-90 there is no online interaction...we cut off all contacts
wittymaple-15

U should also delete all the memories and stuff with her and start doing productive things and get a goal for your future

crispheron-90 OP

dude iv been doing that

crispheron-90 OP

iv been working a lot on my music

crispheron-90 OP

releasing stuff

crispheron-90 OP

performing at places

crispheron-90 OP

getting gigs

crispheron-90 OP

its going good...but

wittymaple-15

Ohhh

wittymaple-15

That's good broo

@crispheron-90 its going good...but
wittymaple-15

But?

@crispheron-90 i tried it twice before...on 2 different occassions
steadyjewel-73

dont kill urself over love. i thought we learned from romeo and juliet

steadyjewel-73

you cant control your dreams 🤷‍♀️

steadyjewel-73

well i can since im a shrink

steadyjewel-73

tehemimi hamama llama

@steadyjewel-73 well i can since im a shrink
crispheron-90 OP

a therapist?

@crispheron-90 a therapist?
steadyjewel-73

duh

steadyjewel-73

if you ever need a pep talk sing golden from k pop demon hunters

crispheron-90 OP

update guys

crispheron-90 OP

i found out why she's acting hostile

crispheron-90 OP

mostly cuz she walked up to me while i was leaving

@crispheron-90 Nah fam she was the one...i had been in flings before her but she made me committed....made me a ch…
jadetiger-51

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahaha.

jadetiger-51

😭

jadetiger-51

Time.

crispheron-90 OP

time?

@crispheron-90 mostly cuz she walked up to me while i was leaving
hazelpanda-96

And.....?

@hazelpanda-96 And.....?
crispheron-90 OP

its a whole messed up situation now

crispheron-90 OP

my other ex is friends with her

hazelpanda-96

Arghhhh okay okay

crispheron-90 OP

and now its become way more complicated

@crispheron-90 and now its become way more complicated
hazelpanda-96

Because of something you did in the past?

@hazelpanda-96 Because of something you did in the past?
crispheron-90 OP

not really

@crispheron-90 not really
hazelpanda-96

Then how is your two exes talking resulting in her being hostile towards you

sageknight-48

thug this shit out easy as that

@hazelpanda-96 Then how is your two exes talking resulting in her being hostile towards you
crispheron-90 OP

basically the other one thinks that i hate her and she went ahead and told her that i hate her and shit and now she thinks that im two-faced cuz i told her that i care about her and instead im going behind her back and telling people i hate her

@crispheron-90 basically the other one thinks that i hate her and she went ahead and told her that i hate her and…
hazelpanda-96

Uhhh, misunderstandings... theya re the worst

crispheron-90 OP

she threated me

crispheron-90 OP

*threatened me

crispheron-90 OP

"stay out of my life and i'll stay out of yours...we both know how much damage i can cause with the amount of shit i have on you"

@hazelpanda-96 Uhhh, misunderstandings... theya re the worst
crispheron-90 OP

its stupid

@crispheron-90 "stay out of my life and i'll stay out of yours...we both know how much damage i can cause with the…
hazelpanda-96

BRuhh wtffff, what is this amount of shit stuff

@hazelpanda-96 BRuhh wtffff, what is this amount of shit stuff
crispheron-90 OP

she's using our relationship as leverage

crispheron-90 OP

i should have seen this coming

@crispheron-90 she's using our relationship as leverage
hazelpanda-96

Okay this is very confusing, the ex you like or the ex you dont like, which she?
Lets call ex you like as A, and ex you dont like as B (as in bitch)

@hazelpanda-96 Okay this is very confusing, the ex you like or the ex you dont like, which she? Lets call ex you l…
crispheron-90 OP

the ex im interested in is A(the one i loved)...the other one is a good friend but now the problem is she has become friends with her too

crispheron-90 OP

now B thought that i hate A cuz she was helping me move on over her....i let her get the idea that i do hate her....but i went to A and told her that i wanna be friends...she agreed. A and B have had no communication till this point....now B becomes A's friend and now was confused about how me and A are friends after she thought that i hated her....and now idk what kindda bs B fed A and now A hates me

@crispheron-90 now B thought that i hate A cuz she was helping me move on over her....i let her get the idea that…
hazelpanda-96

Can you not talk to B. She was ur frnd

crispheron-90 OP

i found out about ts today

crispheron-90 OP

and i was leaving anyways before A came and confronted me

crispheron-90 OP

cuz i was asking B why wouldnt A talk to me

crispheron-90 OP

she prolly went to her and told her that im poking around

crispheron-90 OP

all i wanna do is cry rn

@crispheron-90 she prolly went to her and told her that im poking around
hazelpanda-96

Omgggg, yes this is unnecessary misunderstanding

@crispheron-90 all i wanna do is cry rn
hazelpanda-96

I feel u bro :cuteblob:

hazelpanda-96

Do u still like A?

crispheron-90 OP

idk

hazelpanda-96

Then fk them both!

hazelpanda-96

Let them be

hazelpanda-96

Enjoy other things

crispheron-90 OP

its hard

crispheron-90 OP

if you dont have the one you want to share it with

hazelpanda-96

Yeah cuz u liked her, and u liked the relationship you had

crispheron-90 OP

things changed

hazelpanda-96

Its possible that you miss the times u spent more and her specific person less?

crispheron-90 OP

she changed

@hazelpanda-96 Its possible that you miss the times u spent more and her specific person less?
crispheron-90 OP

i miss them both

crispheron-90 OP

i miss the whole idea of her

crispheron-90 OP

it was perfect

@crispheron-90 i miss them both
hazelpanda-96

💔

@crispheron-90 it was perfect
hazelpanda-96

Why did you two brkup, or wait I will check if I have asked that already

@hazelpanda-96 Why did you two brkup, or wait I will check if I have asked that already
crispheron-90 OP

she kindda passivly cheated on me

crispheron-90 OP

its not like i didnt mess up

crispheron-90 OP

i did too....but i fixed it

hazelpanda-96

Argh, that is bad and messy. And kind of unfixable 💔

crispheron-90 OP

i put the cheating part behind me

crispheron-90 OP

but

crispheron-90 OP

ugh

crispheron-90 OP

why does it have to be so hard

crispheron-90 OP

even after almost 2 years

crispheron-90 OP

its a lot yea

hazelpanda-96

Yeah, I get it….. it seems very hard to

hazelpanda-96

Do you think she is your soulmate or something?

crispheron-90 OP

if she was...she'll come....otherwise im done chasing today

crispheron-90 OP

iv made all the efforts i could have

crispheron-90 OP

atleast i wont have any regrets the day i'll die that i didnt try hard enough

@crispheron-90 if she was...she'll come....otherwise im done chasing today
hazelpanda-96

Yes bro! There is not point in all this. You have your whole life to live. I don’t believe in soulmates per say. But if the do exist, and she was urs, you will somehow en d up togther. And if they don’t then you will find somebody with a better connection and you will have something better than this….

hazelpanda-96

Specially when you are so so young….

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