Age Gaps in Relationships: Is 18+ Always Fair Game?
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The FriendZone | Make Friends ⋅ Fun Chill Active Chat ⋅ VC Social Gaming ⋅ Memes ⋅ Nitro Emojis ⋅ Anime community is currently debating the ethics of large age gaps in relationships. This discussion explores whether legal consent at 18+ justifies significant age differences or if power imbalances remain a concern. Members are actively sharing diverse perspectives on maturity, societal norms, and personal autonomy within our social gaming and chat server.
Online we see people say someone who is 20 year old with 50 year old its predatory, but if its 18+ its nobody's business.
If you think 20 or so is undeveloped, then they shouldn't be able to vote, drive , take loan, credit card, join army or work either.
cause if you consider 20 too "underdeveloped" to date someone then how can you say they're developd enough to fire guns in army? or take 50,000 usd loan for college?
either raise age for eveeything or accept that 18+ is mature enough to make decisions on their own.
don't do it selectively based on what YOU think is right or wrong.
20 yo with a 50 yo will always be weird
I'm 100. Looking for a 200yr old lady
voting and driving cannot be compared to having a relationship
what two consenting adults do is not our business
literally can
when you're driving you are responsible for LIVES of multiple people
its a much more serious thing
maturity matters a lot here
yea its not like i will stop thme..but its still is weird
let them do waht they want..but in my mind it will be weird
sounds like a you problem
maybe it is
i just hate it when people act like one person is abusing or manipulating the other one when its 2 consenting adults
well many times its exactly that case
just cuz one thing is right..that doesnt make the other thing right too
its not.
its called "false equivelence"
older women are just bitter men prefer young girls
ahhhh fcukk...i got it..okay
am out not gonna argue with u again
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If its legal, its ok
It’s MAD that you think a 20yo and 50yo can be in a relationship considered normal. Will never be, there’s such a huge gap and power imbalance which leads to the 50yo taking advantage of the 20yo. You can’t compare a relationship to voting or loans. It doesn’t even make sense.
How is there power imbalance? anyone can leave anytime? nobody is forcing
In theory yeah you can just leave but in practice you can’t. Everyone knows that relationships imply being vulnerable and it’s in human nature to use manipulation to a certain degree. which in this case, more than often the 50 yo will take advantage of the 20 yo.
a 20 yr old can just as likely be manipulated by another 20 yr old. it's false equivalence.
There's no data that proves your point. its purely based on your experiece
20 yr old could also manipulate 50 yr old taking advantage of their older age
there's no way to say its any worse than normal same age relationships
That's why we judge them for being weird
its not weird. you mgiht be bigoted
According to who? You ? And why should I date same who can be my grandpa and atc normal
That's so desperate
why is it wrong for 40 yr old to date 20 yr old? whats possibly wrong with it? they might be in love
its not wrong
Not normal in anyway
Why would a 50yrs be interested in a 20yrs who is probably still not matured....
But this still happens tho...
read the fulll text. about maturity
So you're giving number, give a big number why choosing that small number
18+ is legal, none of my business what 2 consenting adults do
20 w 80 maybe since they're adult we should clap for them
That's crazy
that's not fair because 80 is close to death
I see, that's according to you
Isn't it 18+?
Some women might find it okay but it is risky and terrible
Cus most men at 50 don't want then for love some have other motives
Some relationship can turn out well but it just high risk low reward cus they might be used and discarded
ITS Called... SUGAR MOM AND DAD
could be 50 yr old woman and 20 yr old man too
What kind of experience do you think I have messing with old ass people. It’s true that you can be manipulated by anyone, you can see it in everyday relationships. It starts pretty early, even middle schoolers have toxic relationships nowadays. It’s less likely to be a victim to someone that isn’t 30y older than you tho. That’s just a fact.
Women don't get matured until about 25 when their brain is fully developed and have gotten enough life experience
If you think 20 or so is undeveloped, then they shouldn't be able to vote, drive , take loan, credit card, join army or work either.
cause if you consider 20 too "underdeveloped" to date someone then how can you say they're developd enough to fire guns in army? or take 50,000 usd loan for college?
Expect this...
Not all relationships are based on love . Both the young and old would have motives i guess. And also who said the younger person can't be manipulative lol
Same thing....
show me data that age gap relationships have more abuse rate and i'll accept. dont just say wha YOU think, proe it from data or figures
At the end of the day, you really cant stop adults from dating other adults that isnt around their age gap but people will still judge tf out of yall
For real
its wrong to judge for that
how would you feel if i judged you for somrhing normal? you'd complain
feel bad
if they lowkey fr love each other like fr fr then maybe we shouldnt be too quick to judge but people are still gonna judge no matter what
Well. People Judge anything that's is different from what they practice ig
Sure. So you’d date a 20yo in your 50s then ?
This isn't valid....
18yrs can have drivers license and do all those listed but does that mean they are matured....?
Humans are humans like animals are animals
if they show abuse or manipulation feel free to judge, but dont judge until they dont show such thing?
No difference between 18band 20yrs
so i can judge people for being black? its wrong. very racist. not illegal, just judging. you see how bad it sounds?
if i fall in love, sure
if you have driving license, LIVES of multiple people are in your hand. you HAVE to be mature.
Oh. That's not a new thing
according to relationships with big age gaps in adult life: AI generated - People judge adult relationships with a 20+ year age gap primarily because they perceive them as inherently unequal, assuming the older partner is leveraging financial power or status to exploit a younger, less experienced partner.
AI SLOP IS WORHLESS
Examples
stop using ai
So you will jump into the risk when they are negative signs for society and humanity itself
That is dumb
So it's the older that is always exploiting?
Bro, it doesn't make sense because they didn't choose to be black but those ppl choose to be in weird relationship
darn my message got deleted
That’s interesting
replace it with religion. you can choose religion. if someone is christian and im very judgemental or if someone is immigrant (which is a choice) and i judge them?
STILL BAD.
from what I KNOW, I think the person whos younger in the adult relationship will most likely take advantage of the opportunies aka coming from rich people (ya know sugar zaddies)
according to them yes. older people are evil and younger ones are dumb
so what's the most age gap difference then. The one you guys find acceptable
Ofc judges that daily
Lol. I wish that was true
You are slow bro....
Age doesn't mean maturity
How can you be mature when you don't have the capacity to be....?
You can't just claim to be matured cus of age
Female brain or adult if I should say brains develop fully around 25...
we shouldnt. thats the point
In short terms this post is very relateable to sugar zaddy
That’s not what we’re saying man. A 30y gap in a relationship can be ok, but why does it have to involve a 20yo that’s not even fully mature?
if female bran doesnt develop until 25 raise age of consent to 25?
What if the older person isn't rich. What would you say about that relationship
We should when it comes to relationship
thennnnnnn
my pint is selective maturity.
If you think 20 or so is undeveloped, then they shouldn't be able to vote, drive , take loan, credit card, join army or work either.
cause if you consider 20 too "underdeveloped" to date someone then how can you say they're developd enough to fire guns in army? or take 50,000 usd loan for college?
maybe they just love each other 🤷♂️
thats my best guest
Then it's their freewill
why
yeah yeah something like that
For me,I would probably do a relationship with 5 or 7 years different at most
im 27, the lowest i would date an adult would be around 22-23 but preferably i rather date somebody around my age or woman older than me by 1-2 years
preferences ya know
you do you, im saying if its 2 consenting adults let them make their choice without being judged. thats all
For me I can't date anyone adult than my parents or their age mates, it so weird, disrespectful
Well, at this point in this can't even judge relationships like that
The least weird things we have seen
You would only go into a relationship when it's love right?
My friend is 19 and her bf30 I judged and everyone around did and later on she realized her mistakes
Someone like you would be in a relationship with a 6yrs old if consent was reduced to 6
And a predator nothing more
Was there anything wrong with it besides the age. Just curious
they prolly judge the age gap for sure
your personal experience IS NOT data.
my friend walked near a black man and got robbed by a black man. he realized his mistake
you see how bad it soudns?
Yea but I don't go for anything in the name of love, it like saying I should stay w a man who beat we become I love him
Cus you just care about age not even the person's state of mind
So it's not even judged based on what's actually happening in the relationship
wtf. stop accusing me of being that
cant always assume everythng
until it truly happens
Right
you literally making random assumptions about me?
What your problem w black lol give another example
just giving an example in your own language to show you how bigoted you sound
just swap age with race and your entire logic falls apart
thats how weak it is
I never said that a 20yo is undeveloped but still developing so yeah it’s ok for them to be able to make life choices and have their own « contribution » to society and idk where you live but the process is gradual. You don’t just throw someone into society at a specific age without a progressive approach and expect them to do well.
But trying to sound racist?
Not an accusation but your mentality and you know it
Imagine saying that?
Literally bro 😭
NO. YOUR MENTALITY IS LIKE THAT SO YOU THINK THAT WYA
Are you trolling ?
she accused me of being pdf? file
If you think something is okay for you doesn't me I should be okay for me, understand so if the age stuff is not shocking for you it's for me and my value
I CLEARLY MENTIONED 18+
You said 18 bc that’s the legal age , didn’t you ?
then dont complain when people treat you worse for being immigrant or black. because they have their own bias
She's obsessed w black ppl ig
then lets make it 21. 21 and 50 yr old
Anything about 25 is fine . If both are above that
why not 24?
Ok today most be my worst day Ig
I keep interacting with dumb people
Only few are sensible
You said your thoughts and motive now what to play victim card
You just dumb no one is buying that
That’s such a wild comparison ?
I don't know. I just gave a random age
You seem to hate black ppl this much that you keep saying black, black. See your racist side coming out
if you keep interacting with dumb people WHATS THE COMMON DENOMINATOR?
YOU.
YOU ARE THE DUMB ONE
It's an hottake. Let's not get toxic lol
im watching this
trying to show you how bigoted you sound.
I replaced age with black and NOW SUDDENLY YOU HAVE PROBLEM? EXACT SAME SENTENCE
You're just a racist, that why you are
but just 1 word different
To put it quite simply , our society does not allow for 99,99% of 21yo and 50yo to be in healthy relationships.
It so sad
SHOW DATA AND PROOF ON THAT. NOT JUST RANDOM MADE UP EXPERIENCES
No because, skin color isn't choose
it went from age gap to racism rq
judging is legal then? as per your logic
Bro , so if there’s no data on how assaulting people is bad then it’s not bad ?
Because everything she tried to say to me she had to say black ppl this black ppl that
So stupid
im showing them if you use 1 argument and swap age with race is sounds so messed up. to show how bad their argument is
THERE IS DATA
wheres the source
Well,age isn't same as race. So not swappable
make it immigration
if i judge immigrants and treat them differently its okay?
Doesn't add up
since immigration IS A CHOICE
Food lowkey fr good rn
The hottake is about age gap in relationship
Stick to that
im making a point you dummy
🤷♂️
Expected this from you saying age is just a key for dating a young immature person just show your true self and how dumb you are keep hiding behind that minor tag
Im giving you an example. At some point there was no data on the subject , does that not make it wrong ?
you all are ganging up on me. speak 1 person to 1. respectfully
Oh. Well,if your point isn't about the hottake. Then you are the dumb one
No one is ganging up on you man
something feels off idk why...
4 vs 1
theres no way who i think this is
Huh
NAHHHHH
Hmm
i dont wanna be quick to assume
.
You're right, I will just blocked her
?
You know the OP?
Ima pretend this person didnt even exist
LMAO
im already laughing
HAHAHAHAHAHHA
She make new account daily to ragebait
So desperate for attention
??
this is the 8-9th time
Right
you can tell bc every time i see a new acc it says "minor" and also says her on the profile
Maybe new accounts shouldn't be allowed on hottakes
what are you all talking about
Ya know what Depo or Miley its whatever
Nothing serious
ima just ignore u if thats cool
what do you mean?
Alright now thats settled
…bro likes em young
It’s legal sure but like
I saw age of attraction and there was a couple who was 27 and 60
wtf would you even have in common
Wtf is wrong with u
this argument falls apart because it treats every adult decision like it's the same thing when it clearly isn't. voting, driving, taking out loans, joining the military, and dating all have different rules and different risks, which is why we already have different age requirements for different things. so saying "either raise the age for everything or accept that 18 year olds are fully mature" is a false comparison. and most people criticizing large age gap relationships aren't saying a 20 year old can't make decisions at all - they're pointing out that huge differences in life experience, money, status, and influence can create power imbalances. being legally able to consent doesn't automatically mean every relationship is healthy or equitable. "they're both adults" answers whether it should be legal, but it doesn't answer whether the relationship dynamic is actually a good one.
Just because you can doesn't mean you should. 18 is legal but 18 and 30 or 18 and 40 is straight up weird. It's basically saying "I'd date kids if the age of consent was lower."
