CommunityOne Builders Help: Growth Update

It has been 3 years I made my Discord server which is a social community I do not know why I chose the path of no promotion giveaways or ping for ping partnerships I did not allow dating in my server I always chose organic and real members who feel included in a family not just a member of a server But just imagine one thousand members in three years I feel like I am just wasting time or what I thought I would do some online events sell tickets or memberships and start hosting real life events but that part is still too far I recently discontinued using Disboard because there is no point in being there I only had a handful of members every month who do not care about the community at all and I knew I got members from ChatGPT Google and other social platforms Once I made my own web page like a top Indian Discord server listing and I kept my own server on top and this is what other communities do to grow even a company like DigitalOcean I got tons of members every day I felt shameful about fooling people I thought it is better that other platforms call us top and rank us higher and we get better reviews to attract quality members And this new path destroyed me I do not have new member joins anymore We have been stuck on the same number for two months The goal for this year was five thousand members and we did not even hit two thousand According to the growth rate we should have hit two thousand already I feel so tired and like a failure I will not give up but it is painful After all this I am still stupid I am going to remove other self promotional content from server listings soon too